"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Approached by a girl at work

supCALI

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Hey all,

So I work at the mall with Sandy Claws for the Christmas season where parents come in and take their kids to have photos taken. Mr. Claws had left and it was just me closing up shop on black friday as this girl walks up claiming to be drunk but not slurring her words or appearing to be drunk and starts asking me if she could get a free photo and that she'd "make it up to me" if I'd let her. She told me I looked like a smoker and "I love your hair". She goes "you probably think I'm crazy" and I counter with "well, anyone who comes to the mall to shop on black friday is a little bit crazy haha". She asks me to give her my number but I turn it around and insist she gives me hers, to which she does after she goes "okay but you have to say you want it". You can guess what I followed with: "I want it" and she scribbled her name and number on a sheet of paper. She extended her hand and gave me her name again as I gave mine as I told her it was a pleasure and she walked off.

It's now 3 days later and I'm wondering what I should do with this girl as I haven't hit her up yet. Suggestions on where to take her/initiate a first date, etc. Was hoping I could get some tips from you guys, I'll come home after work and check this thread then hit her up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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spiegel549

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supCALI said:
Hey all,

So I work at the mall with Sandy Claws for the Christmas season where parents come in and take their kids to have photos taken. Mr. Claws had left and it was just me closing up shop on black friday as this girl walks up claiming to be drunk but not slurring her words or appearing to be drunk and starts asking me if she could get a free photo and that she'd "make it up to me" if I'd let her. She told me I looked like a smoker and "I love your hair". She goes "you probably think I'm crazy" and I counter with "well, anyone who comes to the mall to shop on black friday is a little bit crazy haha". She asks me to give her my number but I turn it around and insist she gives me hers, to which she does after she goes "okay but you have to say you want it". You can guess what I followed with: "I want it" and she scribbled her name and number on a sheet of paper. She extended her hand and gave me her name again as I gave mine as I told her it was a pleasure and she walked off.

It's now 3 days later and I'm wondering what I should do with this girl as I haven't hit her up yet. Suggestions on where to take her/initiate a first date, etc. Was hoping I could get some tips from you guys, I'll come home after work and check this thread then hit her up.
Just call her. This girl seems a bit off lol...how old would you guess she was?

I would just hit her up, and try to take her out. Its been 3 days, you have nothing to lose by calling her.

Have a game plan for a date, call her and tell her you want to take her to xyz and you will pick her at at (whatever time) and go on out with her.

She might not even answer. The only way to find out about her is going on a date.
 

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Invite yourself over to her house or invite her over to yours...don't waste time on a date, this chick is DTF....
 

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marmel75 said:
Invite yourself over to her house or invite her over to yours...don't waste time on a date, this chick is DTF....

Exactly! You should've flirted with her and escalated when she approached and instead of wasting time getting the #, you should've gone and done something right when your shift was up.

Don't always follow a set order with girls, it completely depends on the situation. If she approached you, complimented you, touched you; she is basically telling you that she wants to get down.

Waiting 3-4 or x amount of days to call will only make you lose that positive momentum that you guys had when you met.

Call her and phuck her! haha





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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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call her and tell you have a special batch of egg nog just for her
 

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First of all thank you guys so much for the advice that I needed but you guys had no obligation to give me. Bros helping bros.

I talked to her and she is super cool. Told me she was polyamorous and that whenever she gives a guy her number, it's because she thinks he's "fun". She also told me when she gets drunk (which she was again when I called her tonight) she wants to f*ck anything that moves. Asked what she was doing on friday at 9 so I got something for around then, she wants to meet in a public place first, smoke and go from there.
 

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Polyamorous is a fancy way of saying she likes a different flavor of c0ck every day of the month, lol...then she tells you she likes getting drunk and fvcking, basically telling you exactly what to do when you meet.

Bro, if you don't fvck this chick within the first hour of meeting her, I disown you as my brother, lol...this could not be setup any easier...I would just tell her how bout I bring over a bottle of wine and we watch a movie on Friday...she is super DTF bro, no nerd to waste a date on this, push to come over, she will likely give in.
 

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supCALI said:
Hey all,

So I work at the mall with Sandy Claws for the Christmas season where parents come in and take their kids to have photos taken. Mr. Claws had left and it was just me closing up shop on black friday as this girl walks up claiming to be drunk but not slurring her words or appearing to be drunk and starts asking me if she could get a free photo and that she'd "make it up to me" if I'd let her. She told me I looked like a smoker and "I love your hair". She goes "you probably think I'm crazy" and I counter with "well, anyone who comes to the mall to shop on black friday is a little bit crazy haha". She asks me to give her my number but I turn it around and insist she gives me hers, to which she does after she goes "okay but you have to say you want it". You can guess what I followed with: "I want it" and she scribbled her name and number on a sheet of paper. She extended her hand and gave me her name again as I gave mine as I told her it was a pleasure and she walked off.

It's now 3 days later and I'm wondering what I should do with this girl as I haven't hit her up yet. Suggestions on where to take her/initiate a first date, etc. Was hoping I could get some tips from you guys, I'll come home after work and check this thread then hit her up.

Huge mistake in not turning that in an instant lay....this girl was begging to be f$cked and you went for the number???!!! Sure, she could have just been a tease, but IMO her telling you she was drunk was her hinting that you could have your way with her......odds are if you call her she will flake now because if she was indeed drunk chances are she will just tank that up as a drunken mistake giving a stranger her number while she was drunk......she very well may still be receptive but you were crazy not to try and escalate and hit that immediately. Or at least had a good make out session in the back of your car......next time listen to what your penis is telling you in that sort of situation. Shye wanted to get her brains f%cked out and you asked her for her number.......wow...not trying to be harsh...but this was an obvious case of being way too passive...

Ok...edit here...i just saw where you mentioned you called her up....hit that immediately...throw her up against the wall somewhere relatively obscure in public before taking her back and doing her....or better yet, skip public altogether..cheaper and quicker...i love chicks like that...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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