Cold approach is not walking around propositioning random women.
Let’s step back. When you walk around city centres, person, man or woman approaches you. What do you think?
He wants money.
She’s scamming.
He or she is a weirdo.
In normal social interaction in the western hemisphere, adults don’t approach adults cold in the street. We are conditioned to scrutinise this deeply as it’s a danger flag usually.
Cold approach, if you want to give it a name, which I don’t think it should because it should be your default setting if you’re a single man, is interacting with people whenever it’s appropriate. Here are some examples:
Waiting for public transport (only when there isn’t tons of people there who can overhear and make your chosen lady embarrassed)
In a cafe or shop after qualified eye contact, or with a cover (I’m trying to find this shop. I was gonna buy that coffee is it good? You need some imagination to make it non-creepy)
At a class of some sort.
The list is endless really. I got numbers from checkout girls (generally went back 2-3 times to see her again so there was connection established), petrol station workers, on a bus (several times but every time the girl showed me via looks she was interested), parties, all sorts.
As we used to say, I used to “chat up” every decent girl I could find and it was done mainly via humour and insincerity. This should be any man’s general demeanour and I STILL do it now, even as a married man with greying hair. Even though I’m not trying to date these women! I often talk to men kinda like this! It’s called be sociable. Quite often the younger women will actually flirt back as I’m so far out of range it’s safe. The women my own age will flirt if interested and if not they will close off. Some will close down. Guys I try to joke with sometimes just don’t have the skills and will get defensive and close down. That’s life, people have varying social skills. Hell, some kids were wading through the stream at the back of my house yesterday and as I was gardening I told them there were sharks and crocodiles. They walked by in stunned silence and ignored me. Felt a bit of a dad-joke dik but truth be told they probably have slightly autistic, dumbass parents and don’t have the experience with confident and sociable adults.
It’s a mindset of openness and enthusiasm which if you carry it off in life will get you many openings. It carried me through and let me bat well above my average with women. The only risk is sometimes you’ll be a bit self conscious as sometimes people don’t parlay back and you fall a bit flat. So what? It’s worth the effort.
As a single man this approach turns your whole life into cold approach. Wandering around dressed up in LV clothes walking up to broads going “Hi there” to me is a colossal waste of effort and isn’t a natural way to live. For the time you spent you could have just worked the day and hired an escort in the evening. If you’re doing it to get laid it’s a lousy return.
