Approached 100 women during the day - No success!

[Slowhandluke]

You can't negotiate attraction

You can...it's called walking away. Being able to walk away is attractive because it shows you understand reality. As they say:


Gather ye Rose-buds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying:
And this same flower that smiles to day,
To morrow will be dying.

 

[corrector]

The Key word your looking for is TRUST.

Learn how to cultivate it in your approaches and your success rate should go up.

If the OP approached 100 women in the Philippeans, he's for sure get some numbers and dates.

As you yourself said, you were not successful until you went to the Philippeans. It's naturally easy to have women trust you there compared to Germany, don't you think?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

A normal looking dude with good verbal game will have the advantage over a good-looking dude with no verbal game.

At least, here in not-so-superficial Europe. How the situation is different in shallow America I don't know, probably more your expertise.

When I was an Outdoor Adventure guide I got with a lot of European tourist women. Whether they were interested because of my looks or because they wanted to bang the American adventure guide…I don’t know.

 

[plumber]

I don't need women to have a fulfilling life, which makes me more desirable than the men who need women to fill some void inside them.

this is very important. tell more about this?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

. I don't need women to have a fulfilling life, which makes me more desirable than the men who need women to fill some void inside them.

I can handle that for about a week. Then. i start going nuts if some sort woman isn’t around.
This happens:

 

[Gamisch]

Cold approach is not walking around propositioning random women.

Let’s step back. When you walk around city centres, person, man or woman approaches you. What do you think?

He wants money.
She’s scamming.
He or she is a weirdo.

In normal social interaction in the western hemisphere, adults don’t approach adults cold in the street. We are conditioned to scrutinise this deeply as it’s a danger flag usually.

Cold approach, if you want to give it a name, which I don’t think it should because it should be your default setting if you’re a single man, is interacting with people whenever it’s appropriate. Here are some examples:

Waiting for public transport (only when there isn’t tons of people there who can overhear and make your chosen lady embarrassed)

In a cafe or shop after qualified eye contact, or with a cover (I’m trying to find this shop. I was gonna buy that coffee is it good? You need some imagination to make it non-creepy)

At a class of some sort.

The list is endless really. I got numbers from checkout girls (generally went back 2-3 times to see her again so there was connection established), petrol station workers, on a bus (several times but every time the girl showed me via looks she was interested), parties, all sorts.

As we used to say, I used to “chat up” every decent girl I could find and it was done mainly via humour and insincerity. This should be any man’s general demeanour and I STILL do it now, even as a married man with greying hair. Even though I’m not trying to date these women! I often talk to men kinda like this! It’s called be sociable. Quite often the younger women will actually flirt back as I’m so far out of range it’s safe. The women my own age will flirt if interested and if not they will close off. Some will close down. Guys I try to joke with sometimes just don’t have the skills and will get defensive and close down. That’s life, people have varying social skills. Hell, some kids were wading through the stream at the back of my house yesterday and as I was gardening I told them there were sharks and crocodiles. They walked by in stunned silence and ignored me. Felt a bit of a dad-joke dik but truth be told they probably have slightly autistic, dumbass parents and don’t have the experience with confident and sociable adults.

It’s a mindset of openness and enthusiasm which if you carry it off in life will get you many openings. It carried me through and let me bat well above my average with women. The only risk is sometimes you’ll be a bit self conscious as sometimes people don’t parlay back and you fall a bit flat. So what? It’s worth the effort.

As a single man this approach turns your whole life into cold approach. Wandering around dressed up in LV clothes walking up to broads going “Hi there” to me is a colossal waste of effort and isn’t a natural way to live. For the time you spent you could have just worked the day and hired an escort in the evening. If you’re doing it to get laid it’s a lousy return.

This.

The major difference between a social dude and a socially akward one is that for the former approach comes naturally.

It's like asking dude who loves to workout tp drop and do 10 push ups versus a couch potato. The gym dude will do it like it's nothing, while couch potato will feel like his soul leaves his body. If you are never social but suddenly you wanna be Mr Mack Daddy....doesn't work that way.

A normal looking dude with good verbal game will have the advantage over a good-looking dude with no verbal game.

At least, here in not-so-superficial Europe. How the situation is different in shallow America I don't know, probably more your expertise.

Perhaps we may conclude that looks are more important to men who feel like looks are more important.

I said it before in this thread: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/wanna-date-successfully-date-down.280907/

A happy ,fulfilling life where it's not 24/7 about looks, frame and where a man can be a human being might NOT necessarily be able with the hb8,5 twerking queen . But the hb6,5 on the other hand..

I see countless couples just vibing. Ofcourse you never know what happens behind closed doors, but it makes a lotta sense that dating down might be the key to most men.