Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Approach to sex

Hockey Playa

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I dont know how to approach having sex with my current girlfriend. Shes leaving in 2 months, for a 4 month trip, she says she doesnt want to have sex before she goes because she'll get too attached. I want to do it before because i know she wants its just as much as i do ( im sure). Is the best way to approach it by trying reverse phsychology and say you dont care and you dont want it either, insist that we do it, or just go with it naturally one day?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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toddC

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hmm...this is a tough decision...you say she said she DOESN'T want to do it but your still convinced she does. In that case I think you should bring it up to her directly saying that shes going away for sucha long time and you want to spicen the relationship before she leaves.
 

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Originally posted by toddC
hmm...this is a tough decision...you say she said she DOESN'T want to do it but your still convinced she does. In that case I think you should bring it up to her directly saying that shes going away for sucha long time and you want to spicen the relationship before she leaves.
"I want to take our relationship to the next level."

DO NOT mention her leaving as a cause for you guys having sex. Its because you care about her. DO NOT MENTION IT.
 

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before she goes because she'll get too attached.
Argue from this point....If you 2 are more attacked itsless likely that you/she will stray and hook up with someone else.
 

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just to rephrase my question, i said i knew she wanted it as much as i do, because i can tell when were dry ****ing how much she wants it. I think the reason she keeps saying she doesnt want to before she leaves, is so she doesnt come off as a slut , you know how girls are, and is afraid of what people will say
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hahahah. Argue with her? That won't solve a damn thing man. Just make up some bull**** about how much you care about her and want her to be thinking of you as much as you're thinking of her (that'll probably work right there)... Then do something really "romantic" and just let it happen man. This type of girl needs to be swooned into it, since she has already decided that she doesn't want to do it. If she said she doesn't know if she wants to, then it would be a whole nother situation.
 

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a couple roofies and you should be fine..................as long as you use protection.
 

frisco

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not sure if this would work but if you just ignore her for like a week or two not completely just cut down on how often you see her then when you do see her be 100% non sexual and act like your not attached to her at all this might cuase her to be like why isnt he trying anything whith me and open her up sexually and she might think that if she dosent **** you that youll cheat on her while shes gone
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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