Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Approach to sex

Hockey Playa

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I dont know how to approach having sex with my current girlfriend. Shes leaving in 2 months, for a 4 month trip, she says she doesnt want to have sex before she goes because she'll get too attached. I want to do it before because i know she wants its just as much as i do ( im sure). Is the best way to approach it by trying reverse phsychology and say you dont care and you dont want it either, insist that we do it, or just go with it naturally one day?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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toddC

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hmm...this is a tough decision...you say she said she DOESN'T want to do it but your still convinced she does. In that case I think you should bring it up to her directly saying that shes going away for sucha long time and you want to spicen the relationship before she leaves.
 

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Originally posted by toddC
hmm...this is a tough decision...you say she said she DOESN'T want to do it but your still convinced she does. In that case I think you should bring it up to her directly saying that shes going away for sucha long time and you want to spicen the relationship before she leaves.
"I want to take our relationship to the next level."

DO NOT mention her leaving as a cause for you guys having sex. Its because you care about her. DO NOT MENTION IT.
 

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before she goes because she'll get too attached.
Argue from this point....If you 2 are more attacked itsless likely that you/she will stray and hook up with someone else.
 

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just to rephrase my question, i said i knew she wanted it as much as i do, because i can tell when were dry ****ing how much she wants it. I think the reason she keeps saying she doesnt want to before she leaves, is so she doesnt come off as a slut , you know how girls are, and is afraid of what people will say
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hahahah. Argue with her? That won't solve a damn thing man. Just make up some bull**** about how much you care about her and want her to be thinking of you as much as you're thinking of her (that'll probably work right there)... Then do something really "romantic" and just let it happen man. This type of girl needs to be swooned into it, since she has already decided that she doesn't want to do it. If she said she doesn't know if she wants to, then it would be a whole nother situation.
 

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a couple roofies and you should be fine..................as long as you use protection.
 

frisco

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not sure if this would work but if you just ignore her for like a week or two not completely just cut down on how often you see her then when you do see her be 100% non sexual and act like your not attached to her at all this might cuase her to be like why isnt he trying anything whith me and open her up sexually and she might think that if she dosent **** you that youll cheat on her while shes gone
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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