"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Approach the Unapproachable?

PatrickWasHere

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As a freshman, many of the ladies I'm interested in are either taken by older guys, or in upper grades. Well theres a girl whos a sophmore who i've bene noticing lately. Shes a HB9 or so I'd say, definitely gets hit on a lot I'm guessing. the only problem I run into though, is the approach itself. Shes sorta intimidates me[not enough for me to back down, i approach at the mall...but tis differnet] but I've also NEVER seen her alone[i don't go looking for her, she catches my eye]. My goal is to approach her by the end of next week...but i need some help.
How would u experienced Hs DJs approach the hottie in an upper-grade, who you have never seen alone, and only on a few occations without a guy around. I'd really like some help, as I haven't found this kind of info anywhere.Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ace of Spades

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Could be tough, buddy. You're only 15 and a freshman, so you will definately have trouble with upper-class girls. Even though she's only a sophomore, it's especially those girls who go after the older guys.

Go ahead and take your shot, but be prepared for rejection, for it is almost inevitable with girls this age, especially if you're younger than them.
 

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That is the only problem I ran into in High School with older chics, some of them kind of convince themselves they can't date younger guys.
 

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Highschool girls are extremely cautious about their image, so dating some random freshman (especially if they were a sophomore) would be disastrous to their reputation/status.

Instead of just approaching her blindly, first try this - a smile when passing by the halls. Then you get some social proof and status. For example, if there's a coffee house, display some talent you have (do you play guitar or any music, or dance or somethiing?).

You'll have a much better chance after this. Don't take this as deeprooted advice for any woman you meet for the rest of your life, in some situations you either approach or you miss. But to be realistic, the highschool scene is extremely different.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by BustedKnucks
My best success with older girls is introducing myself, piss-ass drunk at a party or other social event where drinking is involved (like homecoming or some ****).
Not a good idea. You don't realize half the stuff your saying, as well as you give off a vibe that you can't control yourself. That's my 2 dollars.
 

Need-2-B-Pimpin

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And (correct me if I'm wrong, my alcohol knowledge is limited), she may not even remember you the next day if she was drunk off her ass at the time.
 
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