Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey dbot! :)

Awesome post man! :up:

But i'm curious so i want to ask you something.
How tall are you? Are you working out and having a great physique? And on a scale 1-10, how would you rate your face or how women rate it?
 

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I'm wondering how has this been working for you or anyone since you posted this 3 years ago? Because if this worked for as well as you described, then that's 14 lays in 3 weeks, almost 5 a week. With girls who are your personal 9 or higher. Which, if true, is phenomenal. And would basically remove any need for any other style or venue of game, or routines apart from the few seconds/minutes of conversation involved with this.

I'm very curious if you kept it up and got the equivalent ~250 lays in a year every year since 2008?! Or was this purely a theoretical, motivational post and I just didn't pick up on that? Thanks.
 

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Swimmer said:
Hey dbot! :)

Awesome post man! :up:

But i'm curious so i want to ask you something.
How tall are you? Are you working out and having a great physique? And on a scale 1-10, how would you rate your face or how women rate it?
I've read dbot's posts. He's 5'10", he's naturally skinny but did a modified version of the Tim Ferris workout and put on a lot of muscle quickly. He gives himself an 8 in the looks department. He used to have a link to photos of himself here, but he removed them. I have the photos saved, but I'm not going to put them up so don't ask. I'd give him a 8 to 8.5 in looks. dbot would be the first to tell you that you can get hot women despite looks (but looks help).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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megarandom said:
I'm wondering how has this been working for you or anyone since you posted this 3 years ago? Because if this worked for as well as you described, then that's 14 lays in 3 weeks, almost 5 a week. With girls who are your personal 9 or higher. Which, if true, is phenomenal. And would basically remove any need for any other style or venue of game, or routines apart from the few seconds/minutes of conversation involved with this.

I'm very curious if you kept it up and got the equivalent ~250 lays in a year every year since 2008?! Or was this purely a theoretical, motivational post and I just didn't pick up on that? Thanks.
Of course dbot didn't keep it up, it was just an experiment which would have been very time consuming. A few things to note are that dbot was already VERY skillful at picking up women when he did the experiment, claiming that he could pick up 1 or 2 out of 3 women. Also note that he lives in Orange County where there are plenty of 9s and 10s, plus I assume the weather is good all year round.
 

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StevePUA said:
I've read dbot's posts. He's 5'10", he's naturally skinny but did a modified version of the Tim Ferris workout and put on a lot of muscle quickly. He gives himself an 8 in the looks department. He used to have a link to photos of himself here, but he removed them. I have the photos saved, but I'm not going to put them up so don't ask. I'd give him a 8 to 8.5 in looks. dbot would be the first to tell you that you can get hot women despite looks (but looks help).
Then he must look like a model or something!!! :eek:

No wonder he managed to pull this off!

I've got the answer that i wanted.
Thanks Steve. :)
 

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Then he must look like a model or something!!! :eek:

No wonder he managed to pull this off!

I've got the answer that i wanted.
Thanks Steve. :)
No problem, if you need any other excuses just let me know.

Us guys who are an 8 in looks or higher can just walk down the street and girls just proposition us for sex. Life is easy because we never get rejected.

Seriously, if someone who isn't as good looking tried the experiment, they'd just get a higher fail rate. Don't forget, dbot FAILED 86% of the time in this experiment, what makes him special is that he kept going, not that he's above average in looks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Interesting.... I'm a psychology major and the typical study referenced X1000 times in social psychology cites that the attractive man got a 0% compliance when he propositioned college girls for sex.

What do you account for this difference, dbot? Venue?

I'm not doubting your successes as I know how spontaneous girls like to be sometimes ;)
 

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Those three weeks in the life of @dbot in 2008 were pretty good. Having sex with 14 women going with a mostly direct opener is great. There hasn't been a 3 week period in my life where I had sex with 14 different women.
 

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It took me over 3 weeks to approach 100 women. How many of them did I actually hook up with? 14. That's almost 1 in every 7 girls. Not bad for a canned, 20 second pickup. Every single one that agreed to come over ended up sleeping with me, and I don't even own Chutes and Ladders
What a load of BS! And only one poster called OP out, are people here so gullible? :rolleyes:
OP didn't hook up with any of the girls approached, let's be real here. I've read some of his posts and the guy is obviously a fantasist. By his own account, he was an average looking, 5'10'' 22yrs old back in 2008 ... in what universe does a 22yrs old guy cold approach a HB9 at the mall and gets her to come to his house and have sex? :D The 1 in 7 success ratio he claims would stretch credibility even if he was a celebrity OR if he offered $$ upfront.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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in what universe does a 22yrs old guy cold approach a HB9 at the mall and gets her to come to his house and have sex?
This has been tried on YouTube multiple times by good looking men and their success rates have been near 0%. This is one example below.

 

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I'm so glad this thread is bumped. This can certainly work with tourist women.
 

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What a load of BS! And only one poster called OP out, are people here so gullible? :rolleyes:
OP didn't hook up with any of the girls approached, let's be real here. I've read some of his posts and the guy is obviously a fantasist. By his own account, he was an average looking, 5'10'' 22yrs old back in 2008 ... in what universe does a 22yrs old guy cold approach a HB9 at the mall and gets her to come to his house and have sex? :D The 1 in 7 success ratio he claims would stretch credibility even if he was a celebrity OR if he offered $$ upfront.
He lives in a beach town. He's also not really average looking, he's jacked and has nice face, plus he has a lot of experience gaming. If you didn't know, your body language is more important than your height or other bs you think is important. His results are definitely realistic. As I said in another post, science also confirms those stats.


When a highly attractive man asks a woman to come to his apartment, 57% agree, when a non-attractive man does the same... 23% agree. Of course those are studies, and in real life the percentage will be lower because women will often have some other business to complete instead of coming to your place. And those were just random women, not differentiated by hotness.

When they asked "will you come to bed with me", obviously, the results were 3% and 0% respectively. It seems you missed the ****ing point that dbot said nothing about sex, just invited girls to his apartment under a social excuse. This is how women work - they'd like to **** you, but they need an excuse. You can't just directly tell them to bang.

This has been tried on YouTube multiple times by good looking men and their success rates have been near 0%. This is one example below.

Again, what I said to pipeman. Asking a woman to bang you and asking her to come to your place under a social excuse is very, very different. Even though they imply the same ****. That's how society makes women work - they need plausible deniability. How come you guys don't know the basics even though you're here for so long? Dbot also "gamed them", by being a cool, relaxed dude and acting normal under those circumstances, which isn't possible for an average guy who didn't bang dozens of women with cold approach pickup.
 
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He lives in a beach town. He's also not really average looking, he's jacked and has nice face, plus he has a lot of experience gaming. If you didn't know, your body language is more important than your height or other bs you think is important. His results are definitely realistic. As I said in another post, science also confirms those stats.

Sci-Hub | Effects of Solicitor Sex and Attractiveness on Receptivity to Sexual Offers: A Field Study. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 915–919 | 10.1007/s10508-011-9750-4
When a highly attractive man asks a woman to come to his apartment, 57% agree, when a non-attractive man does the same... 23% agree. Of course those are studies, and in real life the percentage will be lower because women will often have some other business to complete instead of coming to your place. And those were just random women, not differentiated by hotness.

When they asked "will you come to bed with me", obviously, the results were 3% and 0% respectively. It seems you missed the ****ing point that dbot said nothing about sex, just invited girls to his apartment under a social excuse. This is how women work - they'd like to **** you, but they need an excuse. You can't just directly tell them to bang.
Thanks for that link, interesting read. 57% of women answered Yes to the question ‘‘Would you come to my apartment to have a drink?’
Once the confederate had asked his/her question, he/she waited for the participant’s response, and then each participant was immediately debriefed. She/he was told that she/he had participated in an experiment on social behavior.
Think about it for a second: a laughing/giggling Yes doesn't mean they would've actually gone to his house. They didn't even have a chance to ask: where do you live, because they were informed it was all a social study. The 57% would become maybe 10-20% that would've really gone to his apartment for a drink. And almost surely 0% that would've actually had sex with him that first date.

Dbot claimed that 14/100 women came to his apartment and all of them had sex with him. So his claims are not similar to what the study showed. If that was the case, he would've got 50-57% of them home with him and a much lower percentage would've progressed to sex.
 

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Think about it for a second: a laughing/giggling Yes doesn't mean they would've actually gone to his house. They didn't even have a chance to ask: where do you live, because they were informed it was all a social study. The 57% would become maybe 10-20% that would've really gone to his apartment for a drink. And almost surely 0% that would've actually had sex with him that first date.

Dbot claimed that 14/100 women came to his apartment and all of them had sex with him. So his claims are not similar to what the study showed. If that was the case, he would've got 50-57% of them home with him and a much lower percentage would've progressed to sex.
That can also work the other way around. A laughing / giggling No doesn't mean that she won't actually go when she's sure you're serious and also calm about this. And if you have some basic game, then if a woman comes to your place, she's going to bang you. Also, he only approached 9 and 10, so of course his conversion rate would be lower.

Let me repeat myself - if a woman comes to your place and you don't bang then you're doing something very wrong.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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