gongxia649
Don Juan
i was in the mall today. EC girls, but most seem they dont look at me. my question how i can do to approach this girls. if the first step fails.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by Logen
you can walk up to them and say "hi"
Don't do something like that for your mother or sister, as it is assumed that you have know them either your or their whole life--make the example something else. I'm not sure exactly what--but if you say something like that--it shows that you don't pay much attention to your family--and that's not good.Originally posted by thefonz
it's not so much a science as it is an art. Like acting or singing a song. I'm currently doing some approaches myself and it's basically about being aware of the situation and how you'd like to see it.
I can't just walk up to a girl and say hi so most of the ones I've done so far have been just throwing out a comment and seeing how she responds. Another one I wanted to try was the question thing where i go, "Can I ask you a question, my mom's birthday is tomorrow and I have no idea what to get her, what do women like?"