gongxia649
Don Juan
i was in the mall today. EC girls, but most seem they dont look at me. my question how i can do to approach this girls. if the first step fails.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
appoach
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
gongxia649
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gongxia649
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ill give it a try.,
thefonz
Master Don Juan
it's not so much a science as it is an art. Like acting or singing a song. I'm currently doing some approaches myself and it's basically about being aware of the situation and how you'd like to see it.
I can't just walk up to a girl and say hi so most of the ones I've done so far have been just throwing out a comment and seeing how she responds. Another one I wanted to try was the question thing where i go, "Can I ask you a question, my mom's birthday is tomorrow and I have no idea what to get her, what do women like?"
Then there's one (which my dj buddy says is lame, even though he does it too) where I look at a girl walking by and say, "Hey didn't I see you at Delta Kappa (or wherever) the other night?" Basically a flat out lie but if they're interested they'll let you keep talking. Hope this helps.
I can't just walk up to a girl and say hi so most of the ones I've done so far have been just throwing out a comment and seeing how she responds. Another one I wanted to try was the question thing where i go, "Can I ask you a question, my mom's birthday is tomorrow and I have no idea what to get her, what do women like?"
Then there's one (which my dj buddy says is lame, even though he does it too) where I look at a girl walking by and say, "Hey didn't I see you at Delta Kappa (or wherever) the other night?" Basically a flat out lie but if they're interested they'll let you keep talking. Hope this helps.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SeldomSeen
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and then what? see you didnt give any backup feedback. YOu have to have your conversation ready otherwise you're going to fall flat on your face with just hello.
I used this technique in a bar the other day and to my surprise I actually got a conversation started and a phone number. Basically I walked close to a very nice looking woman I saw at the bar and acted as if I was on my cellphone and I said as if talking "Tom dont waste your time man, there really arent any hot women here tonight...no dont even bother coming up its pretty weak tonight"
She looked at me and before she said anything I said "I had to tell him that otherwise he wouldve come up here and seen all the cute girls thus giving me competition" She laughed and said "is he cute?" and I said "he's alright but not as cute as me" with a bit of ****iness and sarcasm. She laughed again and a conversation had started.
It was cheesy but it worked
So basically you need to draw up a topic or something to get the fire started
Originally posted by Logen
you can walk up to them and say "hi"
and then what? see you didnt give any backup feedback. YOu have to have your conversation ready otherwise you're going to fall flat on your face with just hello.
I used this technique in a bar the other day and to my surprise I actually got a conversation started and a phone number. Basically I walked close to a very nice looking woman I saw at the bar and acted as if I was on my cellphone and I said as if talking "Tom dont waste your time man, there really arent any hot women here tonight...no dont even bother coming up its pretty weak tonight"
She looked at me and before she said anything I said "I had to tell him that otherwise he wouldve come up here and seen all the cute girls thus giving me competition" She laughed and said "is he cute?" and I said "he's alright but not as cute as me" with a bit of ****iness and sarcasm. She laughed again and a conversation had started.
It was cheesy but it worked
So basically you need to draw up a topic or something to get the fire started
The Nice Guy is Gone
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Don't do something like that for your mother or sister, as it is assumed that you have know them either your or their whole life--make the example something else. I'm not sure exactly what--but if you say something like that--it shows that you don't pay much attention to your family--and that's not good.Originally posted by thefonz
it's not so much a science as it is an art. Like acting or singing a song. I'm currently doing some approaches myself and it's basically about being aware of the situation and how you'd like to see it.
I can't just walk up to a girl and say hi so most of the ones I've done so far have been just throwing out a comment and seeing how she responds. Another one I wanted to try was the question thing where i go, "Can I ask you a question, my mom's birthday is tomorrow and I have no idea what to get her, what do women like?"