"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The central themes espoused on this site are clearly relevant wherever you are. This is because women are emotional beings that look for guys that will improve their status, self-esteem and security

However, I live in Sydney which is a los angeles-like, competitive, cocaine infested city

So things like day approaches simply do not work (unless you approach foreign tourists). Even approaching women at the bars is impossible in Sydney. The way to get girls here is to go to a bar with friends and act like you are the coolest group in the place and let the girls come to you

Another tool which is inapplicable is online dating - 10 guys for every girl . In the united states, it is more acceptable for women and the ratios are a lot better

I would imagine that the strategies in the states would differ from city to city as well

Experiences and comments welcome
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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seasonedplayer said:
The central themes espoused on this site are clearly relevant wherever you are. This is because women are emotional beings that look for guys that will improve their status, self-esteem and security

However, I live in Sydney which is a los angeles-like, competitive, cocaine infested city

So things like day approaches simply do not work (unless you approach foreign tourists). Even approaching women at the bars is impossible in Sydney. The way to get girls here is to go to a bar with friends and act like you are the coolest group in the place and let the girls come to you

Another tool which is inapplicable is online dating - 10 guys for every girl . In the united states, it is more acceptable for women and the ratios are a lot better

I would imagine that the strategies in the states would differ from city to city as well

Experiences and comments welcome
i fell ya homie, i live in a L.A. type of cocaines infested wasteland as well. it seems girls here love the glamor of shiny materialistic bull**** that only leaves them high for the moment. girls have no rational thought whatsoever!!! you would be most likely a god here in the states just because of your accent. i was thinking of making my way out there and coz i heard that Americans are widely sought after there, but then again i hear girls in New Zealand are the most slutty in the whole world.
 

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I disagree. It's not "impossible" to approach anywhere. You're probably just not doing it well. Some cities are harder than others, but Australians are actually more open and friendly than Americans from my experience and Australians I've talked to.

The only big cultural differences I've noticed in gaming are 1) Body language and how people express themselves -- i.e., Italians and Greeks are EXTREMELY expressive, the French stand very close to each other and touch a lot, British Americans and Japanese are pretty stand-offish, etc. -- and 2) how sexually open different cultures are. Americans are actually pretty sexually repressed compared to their European and Aussie/Kiwi counterparts. Japan is very sexual but hides it whereas Latin America ACTS very sexually but the women are actually more prude after you pick them up.
 
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