"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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JohnChops
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STOP hitting the keyboard with your cane Atom! Come on..... we can't understand you :crackup:Atom Smasher said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Azzholes exhibit strength. Nice guys/AFCs do not.
When you were in a relationship you likely reverted back to AFC mode. I think a lot of us have made this mistake.
That being said, not all women like "guys like that."
Being a jerk can spark initial attraction and help a man get a female, but often times that sort of behavior will drive her away eventually (unless she has low self esteem).
Try to find a middle ground.
Atom Smasher
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No, no... It was the drooling on the keyboard...JohnChops said:
The jerks can't hold multiple plates very well, they are very good at getting girls but most are short term.
Nice guys flat out suck in terms of relationships.
I however, think of myself as a Diamond, I may still have flaws and I'll correct them when I find them, but basically, you should be very attractive and immediately stand out if you are playing the field well enough.
Also, watch out, just like AFC guys can end up clingy, there are some really clingy women out there too.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I knew a guy that used to yell at girls and call them psycho b&tch to their faces. He always had a HB8 gf.
The nice guy usually has the money so the feeling from her end is "let's marry this sucker."
Whats worked for me is being sincere and not being too happy to be there, everyone wants to see how desperate you are, how many options you have.
Got to say never heard of a hot clingy woman.
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This is the reason why jerks aren't capable of keeping women.
Now if hot women were clingy, I'd be fine with that :crackup:Trump said:
It's the UG to average women who can get rather clingy and it's annoying as all heck
Just to say, a true nice guy won't have as much money as he could have.
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They actually really like it haha. I love saying stuff like "you are kinda cute" after a girl says im hot.
I even understand why it works.
The problem is, i don't know what is too much. is it ever OK to tell a girl that you miss her and stuff? My biggest issue with relationships is that i don't like saying personal stuff about myself, so i use quick whit to avoid most serious convos. but i've gotten called out on it before.
anyone got tips on finding a balance?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yessir... 100%. They'll even complain that guys are too nice and accommodating (low interest, friend zone) - while simultaneously complaining that the jerks don't care and treat them like **** (high interest, pursuing, seeking approval, and / or dumped and heart-broken). If you follow what they say they want, and / or assume things based on their complaining, and act like the nice guy - you're going to get rejected and fz'd too. That is, before they act all crazy and try to replay their past chaotic relationships with you (see: its what they respond to).Mike32ct said:
This is how it is with most hot girls. Everyone is interested, nice, googley eye'd, etc, and they don't care. Doesn't matter how good looking you are, either. You'll still lose to a less attractive jerk. Had it happen several times.
This is why being a jerk is effective with hotties, and why being one gets you laid easily by them. They're also dumb and shallow, anyway, and can relate to a lot of douche bag behavior, AND they're usually *****es themselves.
So basically: hotties = only good for sex and short-term fun.