"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Apocolipto's path to becoming a ladies man =P

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi guys, Update:

My wing broke up with his chick, HB7 , and it's already "on" =) Meeting up in school tomorrow, going for the k-close!

And there's this chick,HB8/9 at the gym, N-closed the other day, gamed her today before leaving the gym, I did pretty good,chances I feel are good with her.I really kept eye contact,smiled, was in a confident position.She really laughed a lot and kept eye contact.Even tried qualifying herself, but I'm just guessing.(Don't have much experience with chicks qualifying themselves?)

All in all,I think I'm improving, because before I started getting into gaming, I didn't have any options,and now I'm juggling about 3 or 4 chicks.Options are available if I fail with one HB.And my confidence levels are high!

Apoco
 

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Hey DJ's,I want some advice.

The HB from the gym, I don't really talk to her via text, and the first time we chatted(at gym) she was really receptive.The convo was about 5 minutes of chit chat about her and her gymnastics.

My question:When I see her again, what would my move be?(Monday)

Thanks DJ's.

And I'll also be posting my lifting stats here, for advice and opinions.

Squat: 150KG
Barbell row:55KG
Bench:some days 80KG is easy, Other days I can only do 70kg
Deadlift:100KG
Overhead press:45KG free weights, 80KG Overhead machine

Apoco
 

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apocolipto said:
My question:When I see her again, what would my move be?(Monday)
Kiss her?
 

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The thing is, there hasn't really been kino, that's next up.And we haven't really had a decent convo,just chit-chat and laughter.I was thinking about initiating kino,and see where it goes.When I'm leaving her to workout or go home, I thought about saying something like "where's my kiss" while pointing to my cheeck.

Any good?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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apocolipto said:
The thing is, there hasn't really been kino, that's next up.And we haven't really had a decent convo,just chit-chat and laughter.I was thinking about initiating kino,and see where it goes.When I'm leaving her to workout or go home, I thought about saying something like "where's my kiss" while pointing to my cheeck.

Any good?
That would work, but why would you want a kiss on the cheek.
Listen, this doesn't have to be a linear process. It's not open > rapport > kino > escalate > kiss...like I've gone straight to kisssing before without any kino. All that matters is the mood. If you guys are getting along, or even if you're not, but you can just feel it, you can feel you want to kiss her in that moment chances are she's feeling it too, so all you have to do is kiss her. No words, just lean in, but your hand behind her head, pull her in and kiss her. You don't need some love speech or anything before you do it. And it doesn't have to be at the end of the date, it can be right when you see her, randomly in the middle, while she's taking a sh!t. But if you feel like you do NEED to say something to start it off. A good one is: "On a scale from one to ten, how good a kisser are you?" - "Interesting" and then kiss.
 

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That's the problem with the Mystery Method, teaches you in a linear pattern.
I have heard about kissing when you feel it, so need to practice to get the intitiun(spelling?).And I think I'll use that gambit (ironicly it's also MM).

Thanks for the advice, I haven't been getting any from Teen-Game.

And how are my stats for a 16 year old? Am I above average strength?
 

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That's the problem with the Mystery Method, teaches you in a linear pattern.
I have heard about kissing when you feel it, so need to practice to get the intitiun(spelling?).And I think I'll use that gambit (ironicly it's also MM).

Thanks for the advice, I haven't been getting any from Teen-Game.

And how are my stats for a 16 year old? Am I above average strength?
*Intuition

Yeah MM is great in terms of the physical movements, kino, and theories that it teaches you. But it is not day game, and the whole 'get girls by not showing interest' thing only works with years of practice and mastering that specific style of game. Take the kino stuff, and the theories with you, and even the little games/quirky magic tricks but learn to converse on your own.

You'll always be above average as long as you are conscientiously looking to improve your self like you are now.
 

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Don't be limited by learned beliefs. Rules are made so you know when to break them.
Your squats are ridiculous.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Danzy, fvck u =P(kidding hey).
I do squats,barbell rows and bench monday and friday.
Squats,overhead press,deadlifts wednesday.I think that's normal,and I don't have to be out of proportion following that.(Or would u back your statement up please?)
@Norwegian,why are my squats ridiculous?
 

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Your squats are so much higher than everything else, far higher than deads even. Your rows are unusually low. Deads are pretty low. Bench isn't great either and shouldn't fluctuate like that.
Sounds like your legs are massive and your upper body is tiny
 

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DanZy said:
Your squats are so much higher than everything else, far higher than deads even. Your rows are unusually low. Deads are pretty low. Bench isn't great either and shouldn't fluctuate like that.
Sounds like your legs are massive and your upper body is tiny
My bench also fluctuates a bit. Depends on how much I eat and such I believe.
 

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You should probably be squatting lower. Watch a video on it, then go back to the gym and gradually increase weight while maintaining form to find your real squat weight. If your form breaks down, you're reaching the right weight.
 

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My squats are in good form,and I have a lot of strength in my legs(They are not that big! :()
I don't do that heavy on deads as I'm afraid of hurting my back.I can go far higher on rows though,don't know why I haven't.
My bench I think is good,as I'm stronger than other people here my age on the bench.

Do you guys really think I'm doing that bad...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Anyway,today was a nice gym day,and seeing how you guys say I'm not doing my best,I'll push myself next time!(Danzy,ideas on what I should be lifting?)

Today I greeted the gym chick,she was busy and I continued my workout, next thing she's gone..I asked her via text to go out for a drink tomorrow after school, she said she can't because of exams coming up.Think I'm putting her on "pause" till next school term,when I see her at the gym.

Back to my wing's ex, she said she thinks I'm cute and whatnot via text, so I'll see where it goes.

Apoco
 

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apocolipto said:
Anyway,today was a nice gym day,and seeing how you guys say I'm not doing my best,I'll push myself next time!(Danzy,ideas on what I should be lifting?)

Today I greeted the gym chick,she was busy and I continued my workout, next thing she's gone..I asked her via text to go out for a drink tomorrow after school, she said she can't because of exams coming up.Think I'm putting her on "pause" till next school term,when I see her at the gym.

Back to my wing's ex, she said she thinks I'm cute and whatnot via text, so I'll see where it goes.

Apoco
Where do you live?
 

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With squats that high, your deads really should be at around 170-180 I'd reckon. Bench weight isn't really an issue but as before if you're squatting so much, it makes sense for bench to be higher. I'm more concerned about a 10kg fluctuation, that's a little ridiculous.
Rows you could easily lift to 70kgs or so.

Height and weight?
 

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I'm gonna check my deads, maybe I can reach up to 150 or so,and the bench isn't that fluctuating, was like two times it happened.And I believe squats will always be far more than your bench.Rows I've never gone really heavy, I'll push next time and see.

I'm 1.8m and weigh 74 kg.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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