"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

AOL Instant Messenger

DJ_Trainee_10

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2005
Messages
66
Reaction score
1
Location
Chicago
I recently saw a tip here about going up to a girl and saying "Hey are you Anne?" Purposefully saying her wrong name.

She'll say "No."

Then you say, "Oh what's your name?" or something on those lines.

Then get creative with it and just get to know her. Say things that makes her take about her. Such as:

"Do you go to -name of your school-?"
"What grade are you in?"
"Participate in any sports or clubs?"

I tried this tip online (AIM) and works well with good looking girls you want to get to know, and "somehow" have their screenname :woo:... However there is the down side that you're not person to person and can't do keno or eye contact, the works.

It's a nice ice breaker and should have no problem approaching her the next day. Say something like "Hey were you the one I talked to the other?" or whatever. Get creative at that point.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

True Wolf

Don Juan
Joined
May 28, 2005
Messages
187
Reaction score
0
Location
WA
or you can grab your balls, and talk to her like a person.
 

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Originally posted by True Wolf
or you can grab your balls, and talk to her like a person.
I concur...its strange when i give advice like these im being too mean...
 

kegger

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 6, 2005
Messages
179
Reaction score
0
I like the idea. I think it is a great tip for people, like myself, who have not yet been able to approach girls well. Thank you for the GREAT tip.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top