"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Anyway to still maintain frame here?

Mazer

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Went out on a first date with a woman two weeks ago. Great date and ended the night making out in the parking lot and her rubbing up on my ****, probably blew it by not banging her that night. Anyway, I always wait for women to contact me after the 1st date.

A woman who has high interest will 9 out of 10 times contact me first. This woman did not so I ended up reaching out to her three days later asking her if she wanted to get together in a few days, she said work was really busy this week, she is a doctor but told me that next week is open. I told her I was going to be out of town for a few days and would reach out to her when I return. I texted her when I got back to meet up this Sunday, no response for two days.

I then did something that I normally wouldnt do, I CALLED her out in a funny way. Surprise, surprise she immediately responded with "WHAT!!! sorry didnt realize I didnt text you back". This ***** actually had the nerve to tell me this. I go no contact, one hour later she sends me a text " Are you still up for Sunday!?

I knew I had lost frame when I decided to call her out and as much as I would love to bang her out I think its best I let this one go. Tell me I am making the right move? LOL
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Billtx49

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She’s a doctor. Do you think she may have a busy schedule? Also parking lots are not prime isolation areas.…
 

way2smart

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This has nothing to do with maintaining frame. All you did was seem a bit desperate. If I don't see immediate signs of high interest on the first date, I usually wait a week after the first date to ask her out again.

And you shouldn't be calling out on her. That's week and needy.
You still have a shot, just keep asking her out once a week and have fun.
 

TheGambino

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This has nothing to do with maintaining frame. All you did was seem a bit desperate. If I don't see immediate signs of high interest on the first date, I usually wait a week after the first date to ask her out again.

And you shouldn't be calling out on her. That's week and needy.
You still have a shot, just keep asking her out once a week and have fun.
Just this.. no need to overthink
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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