"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Anyone try Monster.com? (Don't move to Anything Else)

WestCoaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2003
Messages
2,028
Reaction score
31
* Don't move this to "Anything Else" -- I'd rather have the Mature guys post here not the teeny-boppers on "Anything Else" who are trying to dispense advice on life, love, and career at age 16.

On the job search of late, had a few interviews and plenty of strikeouts. I'm reaching a boiling point and something needs to change. I've used Monster.com for searching, has anyone had success from that site in landing a job? I like what I do fine (I'm in higher ed), but need a new place to do it and more $$$.

Thanks for any input you have.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

T Dog

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 7, 2001
Messages
548
Reaction score
2
Location
austin, tx
Never had any luck on Monster. Monster sucks. I've had much better luck with Career Builder.

Also look in the local business journal. Scan the articles for new employers coming to town.
 

WestCoaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2003
Messages
2,028
Reaction score
31
Good point, I just met some people from Career Builder the other day. I've heard good things -- thanks!
 

Kid Quick

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2001
Messages
152
Reaction score
4
Ditto. I've found many more listings on CareerBuilder than on Monster. CareerBuilder must be much more aggressive in signing up companies.
 

MacAvoy

Banned
Joined
May 10, 2003
Messages
2,940
Reaction score
35
Location
Northern Ontario
I wasn't a fan of monster or workopolis the past year when I did my job search. They are great for National companies but I found local webpages must better in terms of finding quality local jobs.

It depends on the market your going after. There was good volume on places like Monster but I think the competition is also greater.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Golden Arms

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2003
Messages
614
Reaction score
6
Location
USA
I got my current job on Monster.. and I got a call back the very next day after I applied for it; so I was very satisfied
 

Cesare Cardinali

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2002
Messages
911
Reaction score
9
It's an anything else topic. Just ignore the advice you find not mature enough.
 

Falcon

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2007
Messages
472
Reaction score
14
WestCoaster said:
* Don't move this to "Anything Else" -- I'd rather have the Mature guys post here not the teeny-boppers on "Anything Else" who are trying to dispense advice on life, love, and career at age 16.

On the job search of late, had a few interviews and plenty of strikeouts. I'm reaching a boiling point and something needs to change. I've used Monster.com for searching, has anyone had success from that site in landing a job? I like what I do fine (I'm in higher ed), but need a new place to do it and more $$$.

Thanks for any input you have.
I just had two good interviews this week, one offered me a position today and I'm waiting on the second one :rockon: . I normally don't use a site like monster.com, it's more like a last resort. I've always felt that the best way to getting a job is through someone you know. If you are going to a university or such, it's all about contacts and expanding your social circle. Often times, the university will also hold job fairs or career days... GO TO THEM. That's probably the best way to get to talk to companies and just get your name out there. Bring lots of resumes.
 

CGE333

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2003
Messages
332
Reaction score
4
Age
55
Location
Phoenix, AZ
I have gotten jobs off of Monster, but keep in mind:
1. You must have a resume that stands out and grabs their attention
2. For many jobs in a big metro area within 24 hours of the job posting they have 500+ resumes (see # 1)
3. If you are striking out after interviews you may want to brush up on your interview skills and the impression you are creating, close the deal at the end of the interview, send a follow up thank you note
4. Stay on it and stay aggressive- all it takes is for one opportunity to say yes so don't worry about the no's- it is sales after all (in a way)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

WestCoaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2003
Messages
2,028
Reaction score
31
Thanks, I appreciate the input. I do need to brush up on the interviewing skills as it's been a few years since I've interviewed and I've felt the last few haven't gone that well. As for brushing up on them, would you recommend role playing with a friend who can act as an employer. I know of no other way where I could practice these skills.

Good advice on Monster.com, too, I believe it's free to put the resume on there, so nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Thanks again for the input, I have a goal of September to get a new job. If I don't, I won't be a happy man.
 

So Many Ways

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2004
Messages
791
Reaction score
2
Location
www.blackmenvent.com
I haven't posted here in a while.

I got a new job around 3 months ago and I put my resume up on monster, careerbuilder, and yahoo hotjobs.

I know my career is a little different than yours, as I work in IT, but you may way to talk to a few recruiters if those exist in your field. I got my current job through a recruiter.

The only downside to that is that many recruiters are fast talking and they will blow a lot of smoke up your ass so be wary. it's a good resource nonetheless.

Another thing that helped me was the ability to show and prove. If there is some way for you to demonstrate your ability during the interview, do it. Also, always ask for the sale.

Anyway, good luck with your search.
 

T Dog

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 7, 2001
Messages
548
Reaction score
2
Location
austin, tx
For interview practice, get the book, 101 Best Answers to the Toughest Interview Questions. I think it's by Ron Fry?

You will blow your interview out of the water.
 
Top