"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Vantagepoint34

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I'm looking into getting a drum set for myself. Would it be necessary to buy the plastic casing that goes around it? If so what is the casing for? Any tips on how to transport and purchase would greatly be appreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you're in a band, you'd want cases for carrying your stuff to gigs. Otherwise, they just sit around and take up space.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If you're in a band, you'd want cases for carrying your stuff to gigs. Otherwise, they just sit around and take up space.
I'm thinking about building a room just for the drum set. Or maybe get one of those shed's to put the drum set inside.
 

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You'll want climate control, which a shed probably wouldn't have. Extreme heat will make the wood veneers fall apart and in cold weather, it's also possible to get condensation on the metal, which could cause rust.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
You'll want climate control, which a shed probably wouldn't have. Extreme heat will make the wood veneers fall apart and in cold weather, it's also possible to get condensation on the metal, which could cause rust.
Then to make a pool house would be a better idea. Not sure if my girl would enjoy endless drumming inside the house.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so set the shed far away from everyone, have a little space heater in there, and insulate the building well. NO biggie.
 

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If you never played before, look at pre-owned, you'll get a much better deal. Post the names of the kits you're looking at here, maybe links. If noise is an issue, get a pair of sticks and practise on a pillow, or get a practise pad - you can get muscle memory into your arms, hands and fingers that way.

Maybe get an electric kit if noise is going to be an issue long-term. I hate the feel of the things but for practical purposes they're awesome (solo rehearsal, band rehearsals, and they're great for musical theatre/pantomime gigs, techies love them).
 

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rhythmic said:
If you never played before, look at pre-owned, you'll get a much better deal. Post the names of the kits you're looking at here, maybe links. If noise is an issue, get a pair of sticks and practise on a pillow, or get a practise pad - you can get muscle memory into your arms, hands and fingers that way.

Maybe get an electric kit if noise is going to be an issue long-term. I hate the feel of the things but for practical purposes they're awesome (solo rehearsal, band rehearsals, and they're great for musical theatre/pantomime gigs, techies love them).
I actually keep an electric kit by my computer. To record.
 
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