"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anyone speak Chinese?

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PoloBlue

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most of the Chinese in Chinatown speak Cantonese

the majority of the Chinese restaurants are also Cantonese speaking

even though Mandarin is the most common language in China, I mostly run into people that speak Cantonese

most people in chinatown, San Francisco, speak Cantonese, I saw some Mandarin speaking people trying to order a meal in chinatown and they had to write it down on paper for the waitress to understand.

probably because the majority of immigrants came through Hong Kong? since it is more difficult for mainlanders to immigrate?

most of the Chinese in Singapore and the Philippines and Vietnam also speak Cantonese.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am tri-lingual. English, Cantonese, and Vietnamese. Currently I am taking Mandarin at my university. It's a little easier for me than most because I already speak Cantonese, the languages are very familiar. But I have to say that Mandarin is one of the hardest languages to learn. I say you need 3 years of classes and should live in China for a while before you master the language. I gotta say though that the reward is worth it. Familiarize yourself with the language through their music and movies.
 
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Cantonese is a no-go. THe Chinese are a stereotypical bunch, and the cantonese minority is looked down upon by the mandarin majority. Similarly, Mandarin is the sole dialect for commercial purposes.


Writing - unnecessary. In terms of published material, the UK and US are far superior. THe only reason to learn to read/write is to catch up on old classics.

Overall, I still think the English language will prevail. It is esteemed, popular, and universal. Even though China is bound to be the boomtown of the future, the best will still lie in west.
 
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Lay ho ma

Dee u lay
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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