Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Anyone scared to get old?

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I think the world will end, as we know it, before that scenario occurs. Look at what happened this year so far and we have not even hit September or November.
People have been saying this every generation for hundreds of years if not longer.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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To be fair, it's no guarantee you're gonna live that long anyway so you might not even need to worry about getting that old
 

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you spend more effort on your inner life and enjoying people. The stuff you never had time for. My father is at the end of his life. You can see he is scared sometimes but not all the time. My ambition is to have his calm and acceptance when my time comes
 

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you spend more effort on your inner life and enjoying people. The stuff you never had time for. My father is at the end of his life. You can see he is scared sometimes but not all the time. My ambition is to have his calm and acceptance when my time comes
Is he religious?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To be fair, it's no guarantee you're gonna live that long anyway so you might not even need to worry about getting that old
In some ways a quick sudden death is better than being old and detoriating...
 

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He was raised catholic and went to church regularly. He is a very intellectually powerful man i suspect his real beliefs are probably a bit more sophisticated
 

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Buy plenty of pyjamas & comfy slippers If you’re worried about getting old & it’s already started be thankful for the opportunity. Many people don’t make it. Take it in your stride & do it gracefully. Stay as fit as you can. Keep your teeth in good condition & if you’re losing your hair shave your head. A lot of men let themselves go way to early because they think they’re getting too old. Embrace it.
 

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I mean really old... When you ache all the time, can't move well... Need others to help you accomplish tasks you see as simple today. Examples tying shoes, walking up stairs etc....

Sucky part of the life process if you ask me

Carpe diem!
Nope I have the balls to shoot myself if it gets that bad
 

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Philosopy is a classic way to be ready to face death
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Philosopy is a classic way to be ready to face death
Especially the Roman Stoic philosophers. They talk a great deal about old age and death. " 'Rehearse death.' To say this is to tell a person to rehearse his freedom. A person who has learned how to die has unlearned how to be a slave."

Personally, I'd rather go out with a bang than a whimper. When I become too old and feeble and have outlived my usefulness I will hopefully commit suicide or die pushing myself to my limits. In the mean time I will surely do everything I can to stay as fit and healthy as possible. I have every intention as being as strong and capable in my 40s and 50s as I am now.

Too many people just give up on taking care of themselves, their mental and physical health detoriorates, and they cling to life until their last breath. A wretched, pathetic existence in my opinion.
 
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I'm 59. Some of you sound like bitches. Don't be such bitches. Exercise daily, yoga and cardio are great for any age. They will keep you strong, fit, balanced and flexible. And yoga classes are great for getting female attention. Those bitches will lust after you, even bitches in their 20s if you're in a college town. There is no good reason other than lazieness, why you can't be strong, fit and active well into your 80s when you fall over dead if you'll just get off of your ass and stay off of it.
 
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