"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As you breathe, remember you can only take in one breath at a time. A breath from the past cannot be reclaimed. A future breath cannot be inhaled yet. You're always on the one that is happening right now.
“Remember to conduct yourself in life as if at a banquet. As something being passed around comes to you, reach out your hand and take a moderate helping. Does it pass you by? Don’t stop it. It hasn’t yet come? Don’t burn in desire for it, but wait until it arrives in front of you. Act this way with children, a spouse, toward position, with wealth—one day it will make you worthy of a banquet with the gods.”
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kotaix

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There is no point in being afraid. Yeah it sucks but there is nothing you can do about it other than off yourself before it gets that bad.

Live life while you can and don't look back.
 

Lookatu

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As others said, live your life to the fullest.

You can't rewind or buy time but you can choose what you do now. Taking care of yourself now(nutrition and exercise) will also make living later a lot more enjoyable. Also make peace with everyone you know and treat them how you want to be treated.
Be in a state where you can be at peace if you died tomorrow for whatever reason that may happen, even as mundane as getting run over by a car.

Goal is to never look back if you live to be 70,80,90... and regret something you didn't try back in life. Better to have stories than none.

"All men die, but only some live...":up:
 

Who Dares Win

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I love my freedom and I like my performances, living a life depending on others and being unable to do anything is not a life worth to be lived so I dont definitely agree that getting old is still better than the alternative.

I want to live as long as my body and mind perform efficiently enough to keep my life standard worth, after that I would rather reach the after life than being a drag to those around me and being bossed around from them...basically being a kid except that you cant run or eat what you like.

I simply dont see myself living as a weak individual, no amount of love is gonna help with that.
 

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While ever you have rich blokes not wanting to be old,ul have young women not wanting to be poor
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I was an EMT for a couple years and I was around a lot of old people that died. Went to some bad car wrecks yadda yadda. Being around death is actually the best cure for your fear
 
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It’s related to death and dying. It was a big shift in my life. I’ve never been so close to the finality of death in my entire life. It was almost like a release. Like finally I can go home. And once I was able to accept the very real possibility it was all over, the only thing I cared about was not being a burden to my loved ones. That was really the only thing. I found purpose in being close to dying.

And once I accepted the real possibility of the end I got dramatically better. But I can’t say I’m the same person anymore. There are a lot of things I no longer give a sh1t about.

In a strange way, I’m glad i experienced it. It destroyed a lot of my giving a fvckness. And nothing in life seems all that serious anymore. Because what’s the worse that can happen? It’s all going to end the same anyway lol.

When I see people wrapped up in petty arguments and endless drama I can’t help but to think to myself they need a dose of covid to make them realize it’s all irrelevant and they should just let go and not take life too seriously.

Everyone is going to die. But some people go out kicking and screaming with great fear while others can go in peace. I think it would be wise to practice letting go and aging gracefully with peace and learn not to resist what is inevitable. But if you want to totally ignore getting old and dying and act as if you will live forever, then be my guess. It will be an emotionally painful experience when it suddenly knocks on your doorstep.
You're a great writer, but you're still full of sh1t
 
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Everyone is going to die. But some people go out kicking and screaming with great fear while others can go in peace. I think it would be wise to practice letting go and aging gracefully with peace and learn not to resist what is inevitable. But if you want to totally ignore getting old and dying and act as if you will live forever, then be my guess. It will be an emotionally painful experience when it suddenly knocks on your doorstep.
Well said, Storm. Even better said...

"Let us rid death of its strangeness, come to know it, get used to it. Let us have nothing on our minds as often as death. At every moment let us picture it in our imagination in all its aspects. . . . It is uncertain where death awaits us; let us await it everywhere. Premeditation of death is premeditation of freedom. . . . He who has learned how to die has unlearned how to be a slave. Knowing how to die frees us from all subjection and constraint."
 

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I was an EMT for a couple years and I was around a lot of old people that died. Went to some bad car wrecks yadda yadda. Being around death is actually the best cure for your fear
How much training to become EMT? How much is cost of training?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I mean really old... When you ache all the time, can't move well... Need others to help you accomplish tasks you see as simple today. Examples tying shoes, walking up stairs etc....

Sucky part of the life process if you ask me

Carpe diem!
You tell us. Your in your 40's. Do things hurt as you age?
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Nope. No sense to worry over things we cannot control. Can’t control age. Well, not and remain alive, lol.

Lifestyle? Yes
Habits? Yes
Attitudes & Beliefs? Yes

Age? No

Therefore I do not waste emotional bandwidth on it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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