"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Anyone know what happened here?

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I'll keep it short.

Basically, knew this girl for a bit, never got to know her, anyway, she asks me for my number when I see her out a couple days ago and she texts me later in the night telling me she likes me.

So we chill out the next day and everythings sweet.

Then later that night I get the whole don't wanna hurt you thing, and I have no idea how that happened since everything was cool.

I don't even have a crush or anything on her, cuz I haven't known her for too long.

I just don't get what happened like how could interest level drop so fast like that?
When everything was cool, like no awkward moments or anything the whole time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women change their mind all the time. Could be many things: stars in the sky not aligning correctly, she slept on the wrong side of the bed that day, she stepped on poop on her way to your place.

Unless there is a pattern with several girls, don't over analyze this. Better move on with other potentials.
 
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Yeah I know, I'm not stagnating on it, as I said I don't have a crush on her or anything.

That's why I don't get why she dropped the "I don't wanna hurt you" thing.. that's something you drop on someone who's been trying to get with you for like months and you're trying to let 'em down gently.

Not somethin' you'd drop on someone you hung out with one time.
 
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you're over-analyzing, the point is she's not interested in YOU. It seems to me you're pretty interested in her, seein' as how you made this thread and all....so maybe you came across a little desperate too early and tripped her out.... might be a possibility.
 
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Basically, knew this girl for a bit, never got to know her, anyway, she asks me for my number when I see her out a couple days ago and she texts me later in the night telling me she likes me
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Notice the red? Most the girls who ask YOU for YOUR number are fvking nuts in someway... Obviosly she has to be desperate and have no self worth to ask you out..Unless your johnny depp..

you're over-analyzing, the point is she's not interested in YOU. It seems to me you're pretty interested in her, seein' as how you made this thread and all....so maybe you came across a little desperate too early and tripped her out.... might be a possibility.
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Very likely.
 

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Nah, I don't have a crush on her.

I just want to know what happened for future reference.
 
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King Turi said:
Nah, I don't have a crush on her.

I just want to know what happened for future reference.
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she liked you BUT as you didnt reciprocate the feelings (i.e. you didnt do anything as you didnt really like her)

she was just rejecting you, before you could reject her... it saves her ego ...also its probably on a subconcious level rather than a thought out plan by her
 
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I think you could actually be right man.

She has still brought up kissing and stuff since the whole doesn't wanna hurt me thing, so no idea what's going on there.
 
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