"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone interested in forming some kind of book club on here?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maybe talking about books we all love (art of war,the art of seduction etc).
I think it's legal to share pdf, the rule is that the sender is to delete the file while the receiver reads, and then they send it back after and delete it. sounds complicated but that the way to explain the mechanics. Like a real library.
 

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I think it's legal to share pdf, the rule is that the sender is to delete the file while the receiver reads, and then they send it back after and delete it. sounds complicated but that the way to explain the mechanics. Like a real library.
didnt know thats the way it works
 

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I'm in.

Influential books/authors I read often:
Tao Te Ching
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Nietzsche


I have yet to read marcus aurelius but that is coming up next
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Count me in. I'm currently reading: No more mister nice guy, does anyone want to discuss it or any other books?
 
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I'm in.

Influential books/authors I read often:
Tao Te Ching
Jung
Nietzsche


I have yet to read marcus aurelius but that is coming up next
hmm Nietzsche his books are kinda depressing. I think you should read some books refuting his moral nihilism views too
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hmm Nietzsche his books are kinda depressing. I think you should read some books refuting his moral nihilism views too
Nietzsche isn't a nihilist imo, he warns against what nihilism will lead to, which is modern society. But I'm not a nihilist in any case.
 
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Nietzsche isn't a nihilist imo, he warns against what nihilism will lead to, which is modern society. But I'm not a nihilist in any case.
hmm you should try ibn taymiyyah, al ghazzali, ibn rushd etc. on youtube I would suggest "pondering soul" and "andalusian project" channels
 

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trying to make it to a point where we can make a whatsapp meeetup or zoom meeting:)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, start a "What are you currently reading" thread or something

I read a little bit every day before retiring to bed
 

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Deep Work by Cal Newport. More of a self-improvement type book.

It’s about the importance and power of deeply focused “in the zone” work and improving that skill despite living in the age of distractions and short attention spans.
 

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I'm reading outliers. It's a book on what distinguishes high achievers compared to the average person.

I'm also reading feeling is the secret by Neville. It's a self development type book
 

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I like this idea of a book club. I'm going to request it. Perhaps a subforum with one thread devoted to each book. No arguing allowed, all adversarial nonsense immediately deleted. Just sincere men who want to discuss the merits of good books.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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