"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anyone in here familiar with self-hypnosis?

thegamedontwait

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Hello. Is anybody in here familiar with self-hypnosis and knows how to use it in order to become more confident and overcome the fear of approaching women and maybe even overcoming my little problem that I posted about before (slight shaking of the neck when making eye contact)?
Ive read some articles and a pretty long book about it before, but didnt fully understand some parts and stopped it cause I was abou to graduate. I wanna take it up again and learn it properly to improve my life. If anyone is willing to help me please holla. Any help/advice is appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The easiest starter book for hypnosis for anyone is the Complete Idiot's Guide to Hypnosis. I used it to self-induce a non-smoking habit on me that lasted 18 months. I kind of ****ed myself in that with the hypno-script I tied it to the approval of a then girlfriend. otherwise It would have still been in effect.
 

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Look into Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). It's easy to understand and some aspects can help you make personal adjustments almost immediately.
 

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I've already read a book about self-hypnosis (a pretty thick one) and I guess Im gonna read it again so I can start doing it properly, any other advice what I could do until Ive finished reading that book again? I read some article on here about just picturing stuff in your mind or something so it's easier to actually do it. Anybody tried this method and had good experiences with it?

maybe Im gonna buy that other book, though.

Does anybody know how effective hypnosis induced by a professional is? I once saw a report on TV and rather few hypnosis sessions with a professional made them drop the bad habit of stuttering. Is it really that effective? (I might even wanna consider this cause Im studying business administration, so being more outgoing and open to other people will be a great benefit for my career also.)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah that NLP tony robbins style is money.I've been using it to help my sports training as well as to stop choking in my DJing and it's been a massive help.
It is a skill tho and you do need to practice it to get better.
 

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If you want the power to change your abilities and behaviors almost instantly read "An Introduction to Neuro-Linguistic Programming : Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People" by Joseph O'Connor.

I bought this book junior year of highschool and it totally sky rocketed my life in so many ways.
 
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