"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Anyone here suffer from ADD? I might be :(!

white sox bill

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Maybe its the fact that I soooooo busy with work, I'm getting unorganized. One small example of this past Wednesday happenings:

I had a business meeting at Country Club (no its not a snobby club either) at 11:45, so I left office 30 minutes early so I could renew my motorcycle's license sticker. I drove to there, got in parking lot and realized that they had move to another location. Soo I drove there, 7 minutes away, pulled in parking lot and realized that they were only there temporarly and that they were at another location across town.


It gets better...I realize I don;t have time to drive there now so I show up at Country Club and ask the girl about the group I was supposed to meet. She looks on the schedule and informs me that the luncheon is TOMOROW rather than today!!:confused: :mad:

Is it ADD or just a bad day? Seems like I'm getting more and more of this! Would medication help?
Bill
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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People don't usually develop ADD as an adult. If you have it, you would have been having problems back as a child. Forgetting things could be stress, not enough sleep, poor diet, having too much on your mind, etc. It could also be a medical issue, so if it is an ongoing problem you should see a doctor.
 

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At your age - senility.
 

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Phyzzle said:
At your age - senility.
unlikely...senility that early is very rare.
 

BluEyes

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I have ADD...

Was diagnosed when i was 8, and also diagnosed with ADHD as well as an oral learning disability.

Deal with it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My life is busy too, like insanely busy in comparison to the before life. I kept missing appointments, forgetting what I was going to do for the day, what I needed to get done.

What did I do? I went and bought a day planner, some pens and some postit notes. Haven't missed a thing yet. It's all in how you plan yourself.
 

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I had ADD symptoms before removing allergic foods from my diet.
 

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I have ADD. Sometimes adults dont realize they have been living with it until they are older. If you think you suffer from ADD you may want to ask your doctor. By the way, what you described doesent really sound like ADD.
 

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For you to have ADD you'd need many symptoms over a yearlong period. However even if your symptoms have been longlasting, I think some other etiology might explain it considering your being an adult and ADD being often the natural progression of ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder). Go visit your doctor.
 

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There are scientifically developed tests you can take on the internet for free. Just google 'ADD test' or something.

That isnt a diagnosis though- but if the test tells you you should see a medical professional you should. They then check you out, and give you a diagnosis.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PlasticSurgeon said:
If it happens more than once in a while, it's interfering with your life, therefore see a psychiatrist (NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST.. a licensed Psychiatrist with an Medical Degree). He will take a full proper history and then determine whether you should be on Ritalin or Adderall or some type of combo. Meds help a lot, I have ADD and was on meds, they changed my life. I went from barely passing my classes in med school to getting a 99 percentile on my USMLE's! Focus baby.
I was recently diagnosed with Adult ADHD (Inattentive type). Like you, I am extremely capable and really falling short of my expectations. I just booked an appointment with the psych to discuss possible treatments. I was hoping you could give me a little more info about what you took/how it worked, etc. I'm hearing lots of good things about Dexedrine. Anyways, if you have time, shoot me a pm, thanks! :up:

In terms of the OP, this doesn't really sound like ADD. Usually an ADD diagnosis is made based on either inattentivity, hyperactivity and impulsivity (or a mixture of the three). It is definately something with symptoms that exist since childhood, i.e.: if you're older - you won't suddenly develop it. This could be more stress related. Still, if you are concerned you should probably see someone about it.
 

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Thanks. Yeah, I've done quite an extensive assessment but I had to be referred to a psychiatrist to get the Rx filled. Thanks for all the info, I'll definately keep reading up on it.
 
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