"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Anyone here suffer from ADD? I might be :(!

white sox bill

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Maybe its the fact that I soooooo busy with work, I'm getting unorganized. One small example of this past Wednesday happenings:

I had a business meeting at Country Club (no its not a snobby club either) at 11:45, so I left office 30 minutes early so I could renew my motorcycle's license sticker. I drove to there, got in parking lot and realized that they had move to another location. Soo I drove there, 7 minutes away, pulled in parking lot and realized that they were only there temporarly and that they were at another location across town.


It gets better...I realize I don;t have time to drive there now so I show up at Country Club and ask the girl about the group I was supposed to meet. She looks on the schedule and informs me that the luncheon is TOMOROW rather than today!!:confused: :mad:

Is it ADD or just a bad day? Seems like I'm getting more and more of this! Would medication help?
Bill
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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People don't usually develop ADD as an adult. If you have it, you would have been having problems back as a child. Forgetting things could be stress, not enough sleep, poor diet, having too much on your mind, etc. It could also be a medical issue, so if it is an ongoing problem you should see a doctor.
 

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At your age - senility.
 

Wyldfire

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Phyzzle said:
At your age - senility.
unlikely...senility that early is very rare.
 

BluEyes

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I have ADD...

Was diagnosed when i was 8, and also diagnosed with ADHD as well as an oral learning disability.

Deal with it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My life is busy too, like insanely busy in comparison to the before life. I kept missing appointments, forgetting what I was going to do for the day, what I needed to get done.

What did I do? I went and bought a day planner, some pens and some postit notes. Haven't missed a thing yet. It's all in how you plan yourself.
 

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I had ADD symptoms before removing allergic foods from my diet.
 

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I have ADD. Sometimes adults dont realize they have been living with it until they are older. If you think you suffer from ADD you may want to ask your doctor. By the way, what you described doesent really sound like ADD.
 

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For you to have ADD you'd need many symptoms over a yearlong period. However even if your symptoms have been longlasting, I think some other etiology might explain it considering your being an adult and ADD being often the natural progression of ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder). Go visit your doctor.
 

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There are scientifically developed tests you can take on the internet for free. Just google 'ADD test' or something.

That isnt a diagnosis though- but if the test tells you you should see a medical professional you should. They then check you out, and give you a diagnosis.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PlasticSurgeon said:
If it happens more than once in a while, it's interfering with your life, therefore see a psychiatrist (NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST.. a licensed Psychiatrist with an Medical Degree). He will take a full proper history and then determine whether you should be on Ritalin or Adderall or some type of combo. Meds help a lot, I have ADD and was on meds, they changed my life. I went from barely passing my classes in med school to getting a 99 percentile on my USMLE's! Focus baby.
I was recently diagnosed with Adult ADHD (Inattentive type). Like you, I am extremely capable and really falling short of my expectations. I just booked an appointment with the psych to discuss possible treatments. I was hoping you could give me a little more info about what you took/how it worked, etc. I'm hearing lots of good things about Dexedrine. Anyways, if you have time, shoot me a pm, thanks! :up:

In terms of the OP, this doesn't really sound like ADD. Usually an ADD diagnosis is made based on either inattentivity, hyperactivity and impulsivity (or a mixture of the three). It is definately something with symptoms that exist since childhood, i.e.: if you're older - you won't suddenly develop it. This could be more stress related. Still, if you are concerned you should probably see someone about it.
 

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Thanks. Yeah, I've done quite an extensive assessment but I had to be referred to a psychiatrist to get the Rx filled. Thanks for all the info, I'll definately keep reading up on it.
 
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