diplomatic_lies
Master Don Juan
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Hey does anyone here read fiction books? I've noticed people don't read much fiction these days.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, and it's called non-nonfictionDemon said:Wait, there's something other than nonfiction? :woo:
Have you read any Jorge Luis Borges? He's pretty Kafkaesque, and his story 'The Garden of Ever-Forking paths' inspired both my novel and quantum physics.Vincent said:Currently I'm reading Kafka on the shore. If you haven't read it, I highly recomend it, it's a fantastic book.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Because it's fun? Not everything we do has to revolve around reality. Nothing wrong with a little bit of escape once in a while.Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
Nowadays I don't read anything but law books and books about FOREX."We have to live without sympathy, don't we? That's impossible of course. We act it to one another, all this hardness; but we aren't like that really, I mean... one can't be out in the cold all the time; one has to come in from the cold... d'you see what I mean?"
"Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep"...great book to read. Better than the movie based on the book "Blade Runner", which was also good.diplomatic_lies said:Has anyone read anything by Phillip D!ck? He was this old 50s sci-fi writer, pretty interesting stories.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
because they ARE connected to reality, or else no one would read them. LoTR has to do with WWII, Chronicles of Narnia has to do with Christianity, etc etcExp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
They're fun?Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
lmao, I bet you're a blast at book club parties.Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
I hear that a lot, and a lot of people who say so think that the One Ring is supposed to be an allegory to the Atomic Bomb. J.R.R. Tolkien had always denied that LoTR was an allegory to WWII. He did write it during WWII. Most suspect that he just used his own WWI experiences to add realism to the book though. Tolkien always said he disliked allegory though and he wrote LoTR as a narrative vehichle for the Middle Earth world he created in the Silmarillon (which was still a messy pile of notes then and still reads more as a history book than a narrative).Microphone Fiend said:because they ARE connected to reality, or else no one would read them. LoTR has to do with WWII, Chronicles of Narnia has to do with Christianity, etc etc
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.