diplomatic_lies
Master Don Juan
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Hey does anyone here read fiction books? I've noticed people don't read much fiction these days.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah, and it's called non-nonfictionDemon said:Wait, there's something other than nonfiction? :woo:
Have you read any Jorge Luis Borges? He's pretty Kafkaesque, and his story 'The Garden of Ever-Forking paths' inspired both my novel and quantum physics.Vincent said:Currently I'm reading Kafka on the shore. If you haven't read it, I highly recomend it, it's a fantastic book.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Because it's fun? Not everything we do has to revolve around reality. Nothing wrong with a little bit of escape once in a while.Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
Nowadays I don't read anything but law books and books about FOREX."We have to live without sympathy, don't we? That's impossible of course. We act it to one another, all this hardness; but we aren't like that really, I mean... one can't be out in the cold all the time; one has to come in from the cold... d'you see what I mean?"
"Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep"...great book to read. Better than the movie based on the book "Blade Runner", which was also good.diplomatic_lies said:Has anyone read anything by Phillip D!ck? He was this old 50s sci-fi writer, pretty interesting stories.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
because they ARE connected to reality, or else no one would read them. LoTR has to do with WWII, Chronicles of Narnia has to do with Christianity, etc etcExp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
They're fun?Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
lmao, I bet you're a blast at book club parties.Exp said:What's so good about reading books that have zero connection to reality?
I hear that a lot, and a lot of people who say so think that the One Ring is supposed to be an allegory to the Atomic Bomb. J.R.R. Tolkien had always denied that LoTR was an allegory to WWII. He did write it during WWII. Most suspect that he just used his own WWI experiences to add realism to the book though. Tolkien always said he disliked allegory though and he wrote LoTR as a narrative vehichle for the Middle Earth world he created in the Silmarillon (which was still a messy pile of notes then and still reads more as a history book than a narrative).Microphone Fiend said:because they ARE connected to reality, or else no one would read them. LoTR has to do with WWII, Chronicles of Narnia has to do with Christianity, etc etc
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.