"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Anyone here ever used Craigslist?

BlahBBlah

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2006
Messages
63
Reaction score
0
Any of you guys ever had success with this site? I've had one success with it but it only ended up being a 2 month open relationship. I post ads on there pretty often but rarely get any responses. I keep wondering if it's because of the way I post my ad. I guess it's because there are much less women than men on there.

All I do is simply be honest about who I am but try to turn the negative things about me into positive things. Physically, I know I am attractive. The only bad thing physically is that I am only 5' 7" and I know most girls like taller guys. I always say though that my athletic build makes up for that.

Anyone here have a lot of success with online dating? How do you typically post your ads? What are some good tips?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

Yapper

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 8, 2006
Messages
162
Reaction score
1
i posted an ad once without a picture and got a couple replies from cute girls. one gave me her number but flaked.

i made a fake female profile once and got a S#ITLOAD of replies. i wouldn't have expected that much competition to exist on that site. that's why it's probably very difficult to get any results. it's probably a waste of time overall.
 

Mind_Body_Soul

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2004
Messages
281
Reaction score
1
Age
45
Location
A-Town PA USA
BlahBlah,

I've used craiglist casual encounters before ;) Not successfully though.

As far as online dating - have used it for a long time as a supplement to normal picking up of girls. Since I work on a computer as a software developer, it's easy for me to spam a ton of girls at work.

First of all, don't worry about your height. It's either a deal breaker for a girl or it isn't, but you can't do anything about it.

Your profile should demonstrate that you are a fun-loving, adventurous, man. Throw in some humor and use clever/eloquent working to demonstrate your intelligence. You want to convey all the right things without having to say so explicitly. Instead of saying, "I'm smart", phrase your profile in such a way that your intelligence will be conveyed implicitly. Demonstrate your social value by mentioning your friends, e.g. "I love snowboarding with my friends". (This also shows you are active) Mention how important your family is to you. (Optional) Reveal a sensual side - this is tricky to pull off but if you phrase it correctly, you can really get them wet before they meet you.

Someone on here (forget who) posted a profile they were using and it was pretty sensual and smooth (a bit over the top but bits and pieces were good).
 

BlahBBlah

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2006
Messages
63
Reaction score
0
This is what I would've posted earlier, but wanted to get some comments on it first:

First off, I'm not here to impress anyone.

So yeah, I'll admit it. I'm a big geek. :) I love anything to do with computers. I like creating websites and programming. It is the field I work in as well. While I have the engineer spirit in me, I also have a huge appreciation for the arts. I could spend hours at an art gallery or spend hours working on a drawing or painting. I really like to travel as well whether it is with a destination in mind or just driving aimlessly. I am also pretty devoted to weight-lifting at the gym. I like the challenge. Physically, I am: 5'7", athletic build, green eyes, and brown hair. I think of myself as pretty attractive.

I would like a girl who shares some things in common. As long as you are interesting to talk to, open-minded, and have a good sense of humor, you're in. Physically, a thin, athletic, or average build would be acceptable. I take care of my body so I would expect that you do as well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

BlahBBlah

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2006
Messages
63
Reaction score
0
Yeah I figured it was like 85% guys and 15% girls on there. Also, there seems to be more older women than younger women, and since I am 22, well...

Not to say that I have had successes with it before, but it's mighty hard to find them online.
 

Agent Zero

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2007
Messages
192
Reaction score
3
It's all about your pic. I've used it with some success. Also don't describe yourself. I have posted a pic and just said "will you go out with me?" and I get better responses than anything you can write without a pic. Sometimes I will joke around and say I am a huge jerk or say I'm looking for a girl with a ton of money. You need a pic to get a decent # of responses though. You can blur your face for privacy reasons too lol, girls will go for the bod if you have a nice one, but I don't mean taking your shirt off either.
 

WaterTiger

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 3, 2003
Messages
1,717
Reaction score
35
Location
Wine Country, Ca
Just remember Craigslist is a FREE site, and full of people too cheap to pay for something like E-Harmony. Also I've noticed that many (75%) of the girls are BBWs.

I've tried it a couple times and was very disapointed in the quality of men that responded. Be prepared!
 

Viking25

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2004
Messages
313
Reaction score
1
Location
Miami
E-harmony is THE worst dating site ever! On the top of charging lots of money,you don't even see the pictures of the women you are talking with. Tnen when you actually do get to see them...you'll be sorry! :eek:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Top