"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anyone here DJs or used to DJ?

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It’s amazing that everything can be done with a laptop these days or a USB plug in device.


Anyone here DJs or used to DJ? I don’t know about you but I have several friends who DJ and they each have their own style and musical genre they fuse with electro music and techno lol.


DJing is a great way to party and meet some new people in your community. Im interested in becoming one and would like to fuse my own musical genre with today’s music.

Anyone here DJs? How do you get started? any advise?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I was a house DJ for a decade back when DJs actually had skills and didn't just use a laptop to do all the work for them.
 

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I was a house DJ for a decade back when DJs actually had skills and didn't just use a laptop to do all the work for them.
That's the point you can be a house DJ at a party or festival or something and it's easier now more than ever and if you're dedicated enough, you can be pretty good and can be a good side hustle income. Personally I'd do it for a free just to get out of the house and have something to do lol
 

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The old lady used to DJ 30 years ago when everything was analog. Still have my Technics 1200s, a mixer and several crates of vinyl records. You had to be able to actually hear the beat, time the pace, synch the song coming in with the song going out, sample manually and actually scratch on a turn table in a coordinated way.

I was friends with all the djs playing all the clubs and house music was in its infancy in my area. It was a fun time, but on analog you were busy, doing the mix, prepping the next song, sampling, manipulating the turn tables, etc. You had too much to do while playing.

Afterwards? Sure. Everybody thought you were too cool for school.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That's the point you can be a house DJ at a party or festival or something and it's easier now more than ever and if you're dedicated enough, you can be pretty good and can be a good side hustle income. Personally I'd do it for a free just to get out of the house and have something to do lol
Nah...nowadays you are just a button pusher with no real skills. It's basically all bullsh!t these days. These dudes couldn't mix their way out of a paper bag.

Back then you actually had to know some music theory and how to match songs in keys, be able to read the grooves in the records and what BPM ranges to stay within, etc and it was all done by hand and by ear.
 

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These dudes couldn't mix their way out of a paper bag.

Back then you actually had to know some music theory and how to match songs in keys, be able to read the grooves in the records and what BPM ranges to stay within, etc and it was all done by hand and by ear.
Yup. My vinyl record jackets still have the little stickers on them with the BPM count. Too funny. I used to start a set from time to time using classical music, like the main theme from Star Wars, and go into a record that sampled bits of dialogue from the evil Emperor. It was great fun and you could be really creative.....
 

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Yup. My vinyl record jackets still have the little stickers on them with the BPM count. Too funny. I used to start a set from time to time using classical music, like the main theme from Star Wars, and go into a record that sampled bits of dialogue from the evil Emperor. It was great fun and you could be really creative.....
I can picture doing something like that with Back to the Future with a really young crowd.
 

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The DJs I know are very cool people, but they seem to always have some sort of shady, suspicious personal life going on that they keep mentioning. I guess what they do comes with a price.
 

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That's true of the club scene generally @Travel memoir21 . You always know who the drug dealers are, where the after parties are, and every vice imaginable is at the ready any time. Its not a good set up for people who are prone to losing control through vice. You're cool to everyone because that's generally accepted protocol, but you gotta be careful who you accept favors from & how often.

At least in my heyday of DJing, clubbing, and being married to a prominent nightclub owner there wasn't cheap fentanyl laced into everything. You could still get screwed up and OD of course, but now there is exponentially greater risk. They cut coke now with cheap fentanyl. And fentanyl is 1000x more potent than heroin. And you have zero idea of amount or potency of any street drug (not that you ever did but now its exponentially more dangerous to experiment at all.)

That's a potential speedball in any bump, any line. Very scary stuff.

If you are reading this and in "the scene" at all really think about that. All it takes is once to kill you, and all you wanted was a fun time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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