"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Anyone here a Third Culture Kid? Or a Third Culture Adult?

michaelhctam

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Third Culture Kids (abbreviated TCKs) refers to someone who [as a child] has spent a significant period of time in one or more culture(s) other than his or her own.

My Passports & Identities:

- Spanish
- Canadian
- British
- American Green Card
- Hong Kong Permanent ID Card.

Have you ever had any problem in relating to people who have not grown up in more than one culture? I mean at school I do have problems relating to people, I don't know if I belong to the Western people- or if I belong to the Chinese people.

So I am having abit of an identidy crisis at the moment.

If you are (or were) a Third Culture Kid, have you ever had any problem growing up? I really wish to meet more TCK's- so I can find some people I can relate to and that can understand me. :eek:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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redspicyflag

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Why are you restricting yourself to one culture?

You're a traveler-a man that has traveled the world

I'm somewhat a "TCK" as you label, being both of filipino and us heritage

I had an identity crisis like this some time ago

I don't restrict myself to one nationality

All I can say is be true to yourself
 

TheHumanist

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I must say the locations profile I found incredible interesting, reflected of the post. "Everyone but nowhere" for the person who feel in too many cultures and "I pleased" for the reply.
 

Falcon

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I've lived in one city all my life. Being multi-cultured is nothing to be ashamed about man, I wish I was in a sense. Actually, it's probably better to be in your position because chances are you haven't been corrupted. Believe me, a lot of people would envy the situation you are in.

My advice is to go away from seeing yourself as part of a group and instead see you and everyone as individuals. We get our rights and our identity as individuals, not as being part of any group (which is what perpetuates stuff like racism).
 
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