"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anyone here a Third Culture Kid? Or a Third Culture Adult?

michaelhctam

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Third Culture Kids (abbreviated TCKs) refers to someone who [as a child] has spent a significant period of time in one or more culture(s) other than his or her own.

My Passports & Identities:

- Spanish
- Canadian
- British
- American Green Card
- Hong Kong Permanent ID Card.

Have you ever had any problem in relating to people who have not grown up in more than one culture? I mean at school I do have problems relating to people, I don't know if I belong to the Western people- or if I belong to the Chinese people.

So I am having abit of an identidy crisis at the moment.

If you are (or were) a Third Culture Kid, have you ever had any problem growing up? I really wish to meet more TCK's- so I can find some people I can relate to and that can understand me. :eek:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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redspicyflag

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Why are you restricting yourself to one culture?

You're a traveler-a man that has traveled the world

I'm somewhat a "TCK" as you label, being both of filipino and us heritage

I had an identity crisis like this some time ago

I don't restrict myself to one nationality

All I can say is be true to yourself
 

TheHumanist

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I must say the locations profile I found incredible interesting, reflected of the post. "Everyone but nowhere" for the person who feel in too many cultures and "I pleased" for the reply.
 

Falcon

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I've lived in one city all my life. Being multi-cultured is nothing to be ashamed about man, I wish I was in a sense. Actually, it's probably better to be in your position because chances are you haven't been corrupted. Believe me, a lot of people would envy the situation you are in.

My advice is to go away from seeing yourself as part of a group and instead see you and everyone as individuals. We get our rights and our identity as individuals, not as being part of any group (which is what perpetuates stuff like racism).
 
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