Anyone have experience getting/maintaining a 3some with a gf or plate?

[Lookatu]

I've had two 3somes in my life but one was a paid situation and the other was a random one night hookup when I was on vacation.

Recently, a plate of mine and I discussed bringing in a third girl and she's been receptive to it. We have a couples profile now on Tinder and have about a dozen interested women in the pipeline.

Just wondering if anyone that has had an ongoing plate/gf with first hand experience have any experiences/advice in navigating this?

 

[Caelum]

Just fulfil some fantasies with her and move on.

 

[Lookatu]

Yes don't plan on marrying her. Just have fun and don't get attached.
The ultimate advice is don't share your lover to girl or guy. But in the porn age its a unreasonable

Lol definitely agree with you, hence the plate categorization. We have set some parameters already to minimize any issues.
I'm just glad that my plate is more pickier than me in choosing a gal.

 

[Lookatu]

Just fulfil some fantasies with her and move on.

That's the plan. She's on a 6mo term. She's lasted the longest out of all my plates and never had the "Where are we" convo yet so that's a good sign.

 

[Scars]

I've only had 1 threesome, I've told the story a dozen times on SS, but it was basically 2 girls that were best friends and I had fvcked both of them previously in the past. We were all drinking and it just kind of happened.

 

[RangerMIke]

Threesomes are over-rated. Not doing that anymore. Go ahead and do it, earn the merit badge, but it gets old pretty quick.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Threesomes are over-rated. Not doing that anymore. Go ahead and do it, earn the merit badge, but it gets old pretty quick.

It's whatever it is for him. Some women are weird in that with their friend present are more sexual.

 

[Lookatu]

UPDATE: Well got a meet up for tomorrow night. I guess we'll see how it goes. My plate wants it to be more introduction/interview on the first meetup though. Might have to wait until the weekend for some real action.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

UPDATE: Well got a meet up for tomorrow night. I guess we'll see how it goes. My plate wants it to be more introduction/interview on the first meetup though. Might have to wait until the weekend for some real action.

How did she manage to pick the worst looking women from all the ones that messaged?? She looks like a hobbit

 

[Lookatu]

How did she manage to pick the worst looking women from all the ones that messaged?? She looks like a hobbit

She doesn't look that bad actually. I didn't want to post the full pic publicly. Realistically, there is a lot more limited pool to pick from when it comes to gals wanting 3somes so I'm not expecting 8-9 by any means.

 

[Hal9000]

Just be sure you don't give the new girl more attention than your regular one. I can assure you there will be jealousy either right in the middle of things, or right afterwards, if you do. Its kind of a buzz kill to have to make sure you divide all attention equally (or usually you still have to give your regular more than half of the attention) but if it keeps the peace then its worth doing. Threesomes are something women like to talk about but most of them are terrible because women are insanely jealous and usually not that great in bed. You're going to have to put on your porn director hat if you want to enjoy yourself.

 

[andreihaha]

UPDATE: Well got a meet up for tomorrow night. I guess we'll see how it goes. My plate wants it to be more introduction/interview on the first meetup though. Might have to wait until the weekend for some real action.

It's interesting to see pictures of the conversation and how some of the women look.
I also want to add that you only blurred the big picture on the right, not her miniature one from the left

 

[Lookatu]

Just be sure you don't give the new girl more attention than your regular one. I can assure you there will be jealousy either right in the middle of things, or right afterwards, if you do. Its kind of a buzz kill to have to make sure you divide all attention equally (or usually you still have to give your regular more than half of the attention) but if it keeps the peace then its worth doing. Threesomes are something women like to talk about but most of them are terrible because women are insanely jealous and usually not that great in bed. You're going to have to put on your porn director hat if you want to enjoy yourself.

Exactly. I(we've) thought about this and talked about it. Jealousy is defintely a risk and she's aware of that. I'm also more careful in navigating these experiences but that's where communication is even more important. As for porn director, she's fully onboard and we've talked about everything we want to try and she's enthusiastic about it.

 

[Lookatu]

It's interesting to see pictures of the conversation and how some of the women look.
I also want to add that you only blurred the big picture on the right, not her miniature one from the left

Lol yeah all types of gals. I just blurred the big one because you can't really get a lot of detail in the small profile pics so I figured it be safe for anonymity...

 

[devilkingx2]

How did she manage to pick the worst looking women from all the ones that messaged?? She looks like a hobbit

I knew a bisexual girl who said she'd only want to date a girl less attractive than herself because she's insecure/jealous. So it could be that OP's girl purposefully picked a 3rd that wouldn't upstage her performance or take up too much attention in his mind.

Also women have very different tastes than men at times. Thats why women will sometimes willingly do things men find unattractive (like try to be too skinny or cut their hair really short) and get a ton of yass queen slay from other women. So it could just be that in a womans eyes thats the hottest girl.

 

[devilkingx2]

I've had two 3somes in my life but one was a paid situation and the other was a random one night hookup when I was on vacation.

Recently, a plate of mine and I discussed bringing in a third girl and she's been receptive to it. We have a couples profile now on Tinder and have about a dozen interested women in the pipeline.

Just wondering if anyone that has had an ongoing plate/gf with first hand experience have any experiences/advice in navigating this?

You basically have nothing to worry about except pregnancies if you're not serious about/with any of these girls.

If you want to keep this girl as a girlfriend or long term plate or something then you have a few more things to be concerned about:

1. Jealousy/Insecurity (letting another girl touch her man and her man touch another girl then being okay with it is easier said than done)

2. Love triangles (if you catch feelings for the other girl, she catches feelings for you, or the girls fall for each other)

3. Her turning into a lesbian (not literally, but imagine if decides to start dating the girl after the threesome or insists on doing threesomes because she wants to keep fvcking girls whether you like it or not lol.)

I've never personally dealt with those problems but I know people who have and have heard stories of all those problems coming up. (Aside from not being into girls, #1 is the main reason girls would say no to threesomes)

But if you've got the girl agreeing to threesomes and helping you find one you've already got most of your problems solved in my book!

 

[Trez]

UPDATE: Well got a meet up for tomorrow night. I guess we'll see how it goes. My plate wants it to be more introduction/interview on the first meetup though. Might have to wait until the weekend for some real action.

Why does that look like a British woman???

 

[Lookatu]

You basically have nothing to worry about except pregnancies if you're not serious about/with any of these girls.

If you want to keep this girl as a girlfriend or long term plate or something then you have a few more things to be concerned about:

1. Jealousy/Insecurity (letting another girl touch her man and her man touch another girl then being okay with it is easier said than done)

2. Love triangles (if you catch feelings for the other girl, she catches feelings for you, or the girls fall for each other)

3. Her turning into a lesbian (not literally, but imagine if decides to start dating the girl after the threesome or insists on doing threesomes because she wants to keep fvcking girls whether you like it or not lol.)

I've never personally dealt with those problems but I know people who have and have heard stories of all those problems coming up. (Aside from not being into girls, #1 is the main reason girls would say no to threesomes)

But if you've got the girl agreeing to threesomes and helping you find one you've already got most of your problems solved in my book!

Actually we talked about these things at length and most of the insecurities is on her. She's afraid of how she'll feel watching me fvck another gal and if she'll be better in various ways, or if she'll lose me, etc.

 

[Lookatu]

Why does that look like a British woman???

Lol, I guess I don't see it but she is American.