white sox bill
Senior Don Juan
Not only in the dating world, but in your professional life too? I was checking into it and find it intriging.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I take it you've been through it?Francisco d'Anconia said:It works if you don't cut corners on the concepts.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A bit more than just going through it.white sox bill said:I take it you've been through it?
I have a chance to get a free intro near Chicago next month. Is it real pricey? I realize this can't be answered by one answer, but in general is is real expensive?Francisco d'Anconia said:A bit more than just going through it.
I'm guessing you feel NLP works best when one practices the key concepts;foundations. What specifically are the key concepts/foundations? Thanks in advance!Francisco d'Anconia said:It works if you don't cut corners on the concepts.
It works best when all of the concepts are studied, not just the predominate ones. Cutting corners and not fully understanding it would make it seem like what many people believe The Secret is all about. Short cuts foster mediocrity at best.john_1234 said:I'm guessing you feel NLP works best when one practices the key concepts;foundations. What specifically are the key concepts/foundations? Thanks in advance!