tbhforever
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edit: im cool now i was just pissed. mods please delete
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
anyone ever have one of those days...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jeffthechef
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ahaha just answerd your other post.
if your friensd have been avoiding contact for a long period of time..they are probably trying to tell you something without hurting your feelings..but if you're good friends with all of them, it's probably somethign small
the only way to know is by asking them
stop thinking about what some of your friends are doing and think about what you could be doing
you could be improving yourself
working out, reading, studying, etc.
you could be setting up plans
make your own outing, call some people up
you could be improving relations with other friends
start some brief conversations/plans...make new friends
dont spend time thinking about what you're missing out on...think about what you could be doing to improve your life and thus, the lives of others
if your friensd have been avoiding contact for a long period of time..they are probably trying to tell you something without hurting your feelings..but if you're good friends with all of them, it's probably somethign small
the only way to know is by asking them
stop thinking about what some of your friends are doing and think about what you could be doing
you could be improving yourself
working out, reading, studying, etc.
you could be setting up plans
make your own outing, call some people up
you could be improving relations with other friends
start some brief conversations/plans...make new friends
dont spend time thinking about what you're missing out on...think about what you could be doing to improve your life and thus, the lives of others
It has happened to me plenty of times and there is usually a reason for not being invited. The reasons have been that I was too boring and that they thought I would just sit there and do nothing, another reason was that I would get drunk and act stupid. Some people also don't like others who are always trying to hit on all the females. Your friends reasons might be different than these examples and the only way to find out is by asking, and like jeffthechef said "You could be improving yourself". In my case, I already knew what the reasons where but I used to say to myself "This is the way I am and I'm not going to change for anyone", well this attitude didn't get me anywhere until I decided to change some things that I knew I was doing wrong. Also, make more friends, the tactics that we learn in here can also be used to meet friends, by just being the charming outgoing person that people like to be around, guys notice that too and think to themselves "This is a cool guy, I would like to hang out with him, look at him he is not afraid to talk to girls, maybe he can help me out" and that is how you make new friends that will look up to you and consider you the alpha male and have great respect for you. These are just my experiences and my 2 cents.
tbhforever
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it was only today. and im feeling better about it now.
one friend invited me to a baseball game and another one called me but i didnt answer cause i didnt feel like hanging out with him
im pretty sure it was a one day thing and im about to make moves today to make sure it doesnt happen again
one friend invited me to a baseball game and another one called me but i didnt answer cause i didnt feel like hanging out with him
im pretty sure it was a one day thing and im about to make moves today to make sure it doesnt happen again
jeffthechef
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wow..you were worried after only 1 day?
you really need some independence
you really need some independence
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
eaglez1177
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Ya no offense, but based off this thread and the other one, the OP sounds like a very needy person