tbhforever
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edit: im cool now i was just pissed. mods please delete
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
anyone ever have one of those days...
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
jeffthechef
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ahaha just answerd your other post.
if your friensd have been avoiding contact for a long period of time..they are probably trying to tell you something without hurting your feelings..but if you're good friends with all of them, it's probably somethign small
the only way to know is by asking them
stop thinking about what some of your friends are doing and think about what you could be doing
you could be improving yourself
working out, reading, studying, etc.
you could be setting up plans
make your own outing, call some people up
you could be improving relations with other friends
start some brief conversations/plans...make new friends
dont spend time thinking about what you're missing out on...think about what you could be doing to improve your life and thus, the lives of others
if your friensd have been avoiding contact for a long period of time..they are probably trying to tell you something without hurting your feelings..but if you're good friends with all of them, it's probably somethign small
the only way to know is by asking them
stop thinking about what some of your friends are doing and think about what you could be doing
you could be improving yourself
working out, reading, studying, etc.
you could be setting up plans
make your own outing, call some people up
you could be improving relations with other friends
start some brief conversations/plans...make new friends
dont spend time thinking about what you're missing out on...think about what you could be doing to improve your life and thus, the lives of others
It has happened to me plenty of times and there is usually a reason for not being invited. The reasons have been that I was too boring and that they thought I would just sit there and do nothing, another reason was that I would get drunk and act stupid. Some people also don't like others who are always trying to hit on all the females. Your friends reasons might be different than these examples and the only way to find out is by asking, and like jeffthechef said "You could be improving yourself". In my case, I already knew what the reasons where but I used to say to myself "This is the way I am and I'm not going to change for anyone", well this attitude didn't get me anywhere until I decided to change some things that I knew I was doing wrong. Also, make more friends, the tactics that we learn in here can also be used to meet friends, by just being the charming outgoing person that people like to be around, guys notice that too and think to themselves "This is a cool guy, I would like to hang out with him, look at him he is not afraid to talk to girls, maybe he can help me out" and that is how you make new friends that will look up to you and consider you the alpha male and have great respect for you. These are just my experiences and my 2 cents.
tbhforever
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it was only today. and im feeling better about it now.
one friend invited me to a baseball game and another one called me but i didnt answer cause i didnt feel like hanging out with him
im pretty sure it was a one day thing and im about to make moves today to make sure it doesnt happen again
one friend invited me to a baseball game and another one called me but i didnt answer cause i didnt feel like hanging out with him
im pretty sure it was a one day thing and im about to make moves today to make sure it doesnt happen again
jeffthechef
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wow..you were worried after only 1 day?
you really need some independence
you really need some independence
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
eaglez1177
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Ya no offense, but based off this thread and the other one, the OP sounds like a very needy person