"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
anyone ever dated a girl with daddy issues
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
usernamedox11
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Infern0
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They can be a lot of fun, if you look at them as just a hook up and don't get invested, they will endlessly seek your approval and attention.
The trap is, they will attempt to put you into AFC mode and then the games begin!
If you can handle them they are great but avoid becoming their therapist, these girls do need ACTUAL therapy but that's not your issue and you can't do anything about it.
Just have fun with them.
Skyline
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A suicide would be a little on the extreme side for me... There's this girl I know on Facebook whom her father committed suicide when she was like 10 and in the note he blamed his family. She's now suicidal, sometimes homeless, gets into trouble... It's just a bad time for her and anyone else who would dare go near.
Neglecting father I can do but a suicide is something I wouldn't be able to handle in a girl just because it would effect me in a more negative way than positive.
Oh and a molestation would be a no no as well.
Bible_Belt
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I often wonder if that is why the sex is so good. :rockon:
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.