Every so often, I get like a freeze in a conversation. I don't stop talking or anything but I either miss an opportunity to say something good or miss something blindingly obvious. On occasion, I've told myself that such a girl was not that into me but later on when mentally reviewing what happened it might seem that she was!
The latest occurance of this happened last night with this girl that I've been on a date with. First date for drinks last Thursday went well but was nothing special, ended with a kiss on the lips. I texted back and forth a few times over the weekend and asked her to go see a movie tonight (she had mentioned wanting to see it). She texted back saying she had a dinner talk but would next week be ok (I'm busy for rest of week)
Here's the thing, I ring her last night just to say hello. I feel that with previous girls, I haven't really kept up enough communication. Ringing only to set up dates has been working poorly for me, maybe it makes me come across as pushy.
Anyways, the usual fluff chat and she mentions that she doesn't actually have the talk but that she'll still be busy with stuff and tidying her rooom as a friend is coming on Wednesday. My mindset was that she was busy tonight so I wasn't bothered what excuse she used.
5 minutes off the phone, my brain registered that a girl had used TIDYING HER ROOM as an excuse and I hadn't even called her on it! I mean if a friend told me a girl said that to him, I would have been laughing at him. In the moment though, my brain seemed on some kind of autopilot and only snaps out of it afterwards.
Its especially odd as the first time I rang her, I was in a "gotta set up a date" mode, and blew past a few weak excuses to set up the date last Thursday. I mean the girl is still an option, but its frustrating how my mind shut down when talking with a girl who's really only ok.
The latest occurance of this happened last night with this girl that I've been on a date with. First date for drinks last Thursday went well but was nothing special, ended with a kiss on the lips. I texted back and forth a few times over the weekend and asked her to go see a movie tonight (she had mentioned wanting to see it). She texted back saying she had a dinner talk but would next week be ok (I'm busy for rest of week)
Here's the thing, I ring her last night just to say hello. I feel that with previous girls, I haven't really kept up enough communication. Ringing only to set up dates has been working poorly for me, maybe it makes me come across as pushy.
Anyways, the usual fluff chat and she mentions that she doesn't actually have the talk but that she'll still be busy with stuff and tidying her rooom as a friend is coming on Wednesday. My mindset was that she was busy tonight so I wasn't bothered what excuse she used.
5 minutes off the phone, my brain registered that a girl had used TIDYING HER ROOM as an excuse and I hadn't even called her on it! I mean if a friend told me a girl said that to him, I would have been laughing at him. In the moment though, my brain seemed on some kind of autopilot and only snaps out of it afterwards.
Its especially odd as the first time I rang her, I was in a "gotta set up a date" mode, and blew past a few weak excuses to set up the date last Thursday. I mean the girl is still an option, but its frustrating how my mind shut down when talking with a girl who's really only ok.