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Anyone else who's somewhat turned off by supreme beauty?

Juan_Man

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I have to admit that there is something sexy about a girl who is not so sexy. It's not a self-esteem issue where I don't think I'm good enough for the hot girl. Sometimes, I want the hot girl badly but other times I'm more turned on by her less attractive friend. I'll admit that this might be a little perverse, and I wish I can explain why but I can't.
 

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if she fits my sexy librarian fetish then its all gravy. if she fits my sexy beyonce fetish...this is also all gravy! it's only two types of women. those you would fvck and those you won't. Ratings and scales and hotness levels are all BS.
 

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Now that I think about it, I think I find myself attracted to less attractive girls if they have a certain feature that I desire. If find a nice ass, a nice chest, or some killer legs on a girl I would otherwise find unattractive, I will start to take notice of her.

Best example is this one girl from grad school who had kind of a nerdy look to her. She had glasses on a very average face and she never wore clothes that showed off her body. One day, I saw her come into the library and it looked like she had just come from the gym. She was wearing shorts and she had some of the best pair of legs on a girl I had ever seen. Who would have known? I found myself sneaking a peak every so often until she left. The funny thing is that I thought she was checking me out also. I later find out she has a boyfriend.:cry:
 

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Lincoln said:
I know what you mean, but it isn't the looks that turn you off...it is the attitude and way they carry themselves as "THE PRIZE"

Pisses me off, but the best part is they are insecure :)

I always pop little comments on them, lol...only scored one out of 5 or 6 I have messed with.
Soo true...9s and 10s are usually messed up cause of the extremely high demand for them... everyone wants them... they can have anyone.. power like that can and does corrupt.. I dated a 9 for 8 years... she was cool until she got her degree than she changed and became too good for any man who was not a "rich white PHD"...LOL She was simple now she has gucci and prada...

She is insecure but that does not stop her from thinking 95% of males are not good enough...

Looks are not the biggest thing for me but i will not LTR lower than a 7 nore F below a 5.. WHY? cause fat/ugly women are bad for your self esteme and DJ skills... and social proof/ status
 

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Kaim Argonar said:
A few months ago I went to parties and there was this really gorgeous chick, a good 9/9.5, and the same thing occured. I just felt like being friendly to her, I just couldn't envision her as mate potential.
Earlier in my life I used to ignore sexy women. On the outside it looked like I didn't care about them and it was true. But now I can look back and know the reason why... I didn't care about super sexy chicks back then because I didn't think they were attainable to me... so they ceased to exist in my world.

Kaim Argonar said:
In the past all the girls I've had relationships with were average or slightly above average in looks. All the girls I've been infatuated with in the last few months were short, unassuming, and most had glasses or less-than-perfect bodies or faces.
If you are attracted to these girls, more power to ya. Less competition for the hot ones.

Kaim Argonar said:
And I don't attribute it to self-esteem, putting the ***** on a pedestal or anything like that. It's as if I found quasi-perfection to be dull, devoid of character.
So if a girl LOOKS attractive you can tell she has no personality? Inttttteresting...

Kaim Argonar said:
I think I wouldn't be that picky when it comes to finding a girlfriend because I'm incredibly interested in human character, I always found something worth getting interested into with nearly anyone else's persona.
Again... assuming that a chick has no personality because she is good looking seems might shallow on your behalf
 

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So if a girl LOOKS attractive you can tell she has no personality? Inttttteresting...
I wasn't referring to psychological personality anywhere in that post, I was just talking about appearances and the effect they produce on me.

Again, I'm not surprised that this topic got filled with even more elitist ****s who all unctuously advance that "Aha-HA! It's because they look stuck up and because you think they aren't attainable to you!"

Would it be so unbelievable if some classes of girls who actually aren't top-models are actually way more of a turn-on for certain guys? To the absolute most I'd say it could be the way in which my girl tastes have been established through my teenhood where I was way less confident and assertive, but even then I don't think it betrays insecurity in any way, it's just specific taste. I guess it's more like Juan_Man in my case.

I also don't believe this thing about hot girls all having a stuck-up attitude, or even the reverse. At least not systematically. The last girl I've been infatuated with was way nerdy, but she really had some cold stuck-up attitude, and conversely I've met my fair share of 9s who were models of humility.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I don't know what you are talking about. I want my gf to be at least 9/10. An average girl is boring. You want to know you have the personality to pull the hot ones. If 5 other guys are after the hot one and she picks you, you know you have game and are a DJ.

Before I some game, I had so so many average girls tell me where to go when I asked them out. Now, some of them know I'm with a hot girl, guess who's calling and guess who's not returning their phone calls?
So what you're basically saying is, you still feel the need to prove something by having a trophy girl on your arm. I fail to see how that makes you a DJ. No offence intended, but I think you've got a long way to go in working on your inner game.

To the OP, I fully get it. There are some girls that are considered mainstream hot that I like, but I'm a real fan of the quirky ones. You know the ones that are really sexy but not the classic film star blond. They just have that 'X' factor about them. A lot of it's probably to do with femininity and attitude. To be honest, if I think she's hot, other peoples' opinions are not even a factor.

God, I sound like Jack Black at the end of Shallow Hal... Lucky I don't go for fatties!
 

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Just be yourself, see yourself as a man who has value and let your inner charm shine.

As to talking to her, just go with the flow and see what happens.

You have to see yourself with a 9 or 10 to attract one, you have a lot to offer.
 

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Indigo7 said:
Just be yourself, see yourself as a man who has value and let your inner charm shine.

As to talking to her, just go with the flow and see what happens.

You have to see yourself with a 9 or 10 to attract one, you have a lot to offer.
Why did you bump a thread from 4 years ago? o_O
 

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KSoze said:
This one girl i took out was the hottest woman ive ever dated, and probably ever will. Definite 9.5. I asked her, "what are your hobbies, passions in life?"........dead silence, nothing........INSTANT turnoff, she was a bore.....i almost wanted to tell her to get out of my truck and walk home....lol.
You mean she didn't say "travelling"????? :nervous:
 

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I'm kinda the same way. I feel the prettiest girls have the worst personalities usually. Pretty girls just don't have to try so hard to be socially accepted. Get one of these cool fine girls alone and they just don't know how to act most of the time. They also have a higher tendency to be sexually jaded or just plain boring.

To me a perfect girl has a nice big rack, and enough defects that she knows she still has to try. Those are the best ones...
 

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Snow Plowman said:
Again just skimming through thread...

Alot of you guys sound like chodes and have limiting beliefs...

As I always say Date Your 10...

Stop worrying about what others like, go for what you like. I see guys always asking other guys what they think about specific girls and if you say she's ugly or average they sit there like WTF...you are the one fuking her...

I personally am attracted to chicks who ooze female sexuality and some of them tend to be the so called hot, hot chicks which is why I mainly go for them because they know there hot. Then you have times where it's a short average looking slightly chubby chick who for some reason gives me a tingle and I'd ****, but never actually approached.
Looky looky the virgin now rsd fan boy is calling you guys chodes...hmmmm okayyyyy
 

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KSoze said:
I asked her, "what are your hobbies, passions in life?"
No offence but that's a pretty lame question. How do yo even answer that without sounding like you are either an idiot or too full of yourself?
 

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ive just gotten accustomed to the reality that most women who are attractive are usually pretty ugly on the inside or unfriendly, the females who are naturally beautiful in their own way and down to earth seem to very rare. thats just my personal experience though.
 

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I think it was Pook who said "Perfection is boring". He was talking about men, but that can apply to women too. If a girl is too much of a plastic Barbie cutout stereotype, I can see where that might be boring.

Really, it depends on the girl. There are some girls who are 9s in looks but for whatever reason they don't push your buttons. But then another 9 might light you up like a Christmas tree. It's all down to personal preference and chemistry. I've heard that people are attracted to people with different genetics, because it makes for healthy breeding. I could see that. Or maybe you're into brunettes and the 9 is a blond, could be anything that puts you off.
 

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I think the hotter the girl, the more plain she should dress and less makeup.

A lot of 9s end up looking really TRYHARD because you see what was a hot girl with heavy tanning, expensive clothes, excessive jewelry, etc.

It ends up destroying her look IMO because its unnecessary. For this reason, I'm turned off by many SHBs.

The true hotties are the 8s IMO.

A girl next door 8 is better than a 9 with a tryhard porn star look.
 

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I feel the same. Never been one to be attracted to "celebrities" or "popular" girls, even ones in sororities while cute and alluring tended to be the most fake, flake, and vapid empty souls, caricatures of themselves. I'll absorb their charm but know all along it's not going anywhere, and would just be a waste of time beyond a fvck. The only celebrity that I've actually wanted where like from the 30s, 40s movies, and then Reese Whitherspoon before she became so feminist. I didn't like her as a little tart in her first movies, just later on, her (kinda old-fashioned, yet still feminist) personality attracted me.
 
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