Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Anyone else picky?

Mulder138

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Let me just start off by saying that I'm 24, a virgin, have fooled around with a couple girls that to me were a 5 or 6 and found it pointless. My first kiss (Age 17, hours after my last day of high school. Met a girl from the internet that lived in a town over from me) was probably the most anticlimactic moment of my life. I remember thinking "this would be better if I was physically attracted." Like someone said in another post, I'd rather jerk off than do anything sexually with a girl I'm not attracted to.

I don't think I'm that picky. I'm consistent. White women only. Chubby or fat is an obvious turnoff, same thing with the tall, thin, no curves type like Paris Hilton or Maria Sharapova. If a girl is curvy and has a pretty face, she's probably my type. Blonde, brunette, redhead, doesn't matter. For celebrities, I like Gillian Anderson when she was younger on X-Files and Patricia Heaton when she was on Everybody Loves Raymond. They don't look anything alike, but they're both short and have shoulder length hair and a pretty face and a nice body.

As far as myself, I look like the guy that plays Tony Almeida in the show 24. I've had girls think I was cute or hot and also girls that thought I was ugly or nerdy. I never know, and that's part of the reason I like this stuff. I've never had anything handed to me.

My problem, besides the standards, is that I live in a town near other small towns. It would be hard enough to even meet a 0-7 girl close to my age. I end up seeing girls that I'm attracted to in nearly impossible situations. For instance, there was a HB10 receptionist at a hair-cutting place. My brother and I joked around that she probably has some loser bf. Next thing you know, some wigger comes in and they leave together. Neither of them looked particularly happy with the other. They just looked like a bored couple.

Moving isn't an option at the moment. Bars and clubs, besides the fact that I don't drink, hate places where I can't even hear myself talking to people, and don't want drunk, party girls, are at best an hour/hour and a half away from me. I don't expect to meet a girl in the town I live in, but they have to be at least a half-hour radius to make a potential friends with benefits or relationship work.

The good news is that when I finally meet a HB, I'll be in her social circle and meet other HBs, kind of like the episode of Seinfeld where George has a picture of a model and tells women that he used to date her before she died and all of a sudden he's meeting HBs left and right.

I'm wondering if anyone has been in this situation or is also currently in this situation and what can be done about it, settling for less not being an option.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey, if it's working out for you so far, don't worry about it. The last thing any man needs to do is get into a relationship with some chick he ends up resenting and not having a viable exit strategy. There's nothing wrong with waiting to find "the one." Although, you do have to actively look for her, and know what to do when you find her.
 

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I used to think there was "the one" but there a lot of "the ones." Even for a guy like myself, who lives in a town and sees mostly UGs and average looking girls, I've seen enough girls that would rate a 10 on my looks scale. My goal is to have sex with such a girl.
 

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I have read that guys decribed as "naturals" are usually not that picky. A hb 7-8 with the right attitude is enough to make me happy.
 

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^ The man speaks the truth. Watch "Talladega Nights" for elaboration on this concept and a few good laughs. Notice the difference between the extremely hot b!tch that Will Ferrel is married to in the beginning and then the cute redhead (i think she's a redhead, it's been a while since I've seen it) he ends up with in the end of the movie. Which one do you want?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm a quality over quantity guy. I'm the kind of person that will listen to the same few songs over and over again rather than listen to a bunch of songs that I think are just ok. Same thing with girls. I'd rather have sex with the same one or two girls that are 10s than 10 girls that are a 7 or 8. For me, it isn't a competition. I'm not looking for bragging rights or to be a pick-up artist or anything. I'm doing it for myself and my own pleasure.
 
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