"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone else have one of "thoes days"/

cola

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Somedays I am the man. I'm sociable, funny and confident. Other days everybody sucks, I want everyone to leave me alone and I stay to myself. And then other days I'm confident but quiet.
I also have racing thoughts( tied in with other things leads me to think I'm bi polar sometimes).. and I think people (mostly coworkers) are starting to pick up on the inconsistincies in my mood and may find me a little weird.

Anyone have similar problems and know how to make there mood more consistetnt and eliminate racing thoughts? Any input even negative would be viable.

Fyi: the racing thought thing its really weird to me its like I'm always thinking.. I can't shut my brain off .. ill be thinking of future events.. the likelihood of something happening or just stuff that has no pertinence to the moment.. weird right?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lol yea thats me strait up i over analyze things in my head think about things to much and also can go from being happy confident and funny to depressed angry and yea lol
 

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cola said:
Somedays I am the man. I'm sociable, funny and confident. Other days everybody sucks, I want everyone to leave me alone and I stay to myself. And then other days I'm confident but quiet.
I also have racing thoughts( tied in with other things leads me to think I'm bi polar sometimes).. and I think people (mostly coworkers) are starting to pick up on the inconsistincies in my mood and may find me a little weird.

Anyone have similar problems and know how to make there mood more consistetnt and eliminate racing thoughts? Any input even negative would be viable.

Fyi: the racing thought thing its really weird to me its like I'm always thinking.. I can't shut my brain off .. ill be thinking of future events.. the likelihood of something happening or just stuff that has no pertinence to the moment.. weird right?
I know what you mean man. I feel the best way to change this cyclical mood changes is to eliminate all negative thoughts. Something that might put this into perspective is this buddhist idea my friend who studies Religious Studies told me. Essentially the idea here is that if you think negative thoughts then negative thoughts will dominate your mindset and reflect itself in your mood. This is exactly like Karma in the fact that if you do negative things, negative things happen to you.

As for the overthinking again I refer to Buddhism. Next time you find your brain racing and you want to clear your thoughts concentrate on breathing in through your mouth and out through your nose. Do this for a few minutes and you will find that your have forgotten what you were thinking about in the first place. It's all about clearing your head man.

I experience the same problems as you and through the two things I have mentioned I have found that my mood has been elevated all the time and my head remains focused. Even though I slip up every now and then, these techniques help me become happy when I'm p***ed off and clear my head when I find it racing off on random, unrelated tangents.

Remember man, the best thing to do is just sit back and concentrate on your breathing. Take it easy man.
 

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cola said:
Somedays I am the man. I'm sociable, funny and confident. Other days everybody sucks, I want everyone to leave me alone and I stay to myself. And then other days I'm confident but quiet.
I also have racing thoughts( tied in with other things leads me to think I'm bi polar sometimes).. and I think people (mostly coworkers) are starting to pick up on the inconsistincies in my mood and may find me a little weird.

Anyone have similar problems and know how to make there mood more consistetnt and eliminate racing thoughts? Any input even negative would be viable.

Fyi: the racing thought thing its really weird to me its like I'm always thinking.. I can't shut my brain off .. ill be thinking of future events.. the likelihood of something happening or just stuff that has no pertinence to the moment.. weird right?
I think everyone has those days. I know I do. I have felt exactly the same feeling of ups and downs, I think it is quite normal. What makes you bipolar is if you are seriously depressed on a regular basis, not just having a bad day, or not quite as happy as possible.

What I have been trying to do lately is think about what is different about the days I feel like "Im the man", and try to recreate that. Personally I find the right combination of factors to be: enough sleep, appearance (dressed nicely, not looking shaggy), prepared for work/school, not having any personal business things hanging over my head, and feeling healthy. Sometimes if I'm having a bad day I go to the gym and this generally helps change my mood. It's a good healthy way to make yourself feel better. Better than eating which is what some people do when they are feeling blue.

If your thoughts are racing I think it could be a sign of some anxiety. Try to do things to take away whatever is causing the anxiety if that is the case. You think all these things are weird but they are really not. We all think all the time. I would only worry about it if you were unable to force yourself to stop thinking and pay attention to what someone is saying.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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