"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Anyone else’s love life take a beating with the quarantine?

captain55

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Broke up with my girlfriend of 8 months about a month ago. Really starting to lose my mind in this thing. But it’s better than being with an obnoxious ***** I guess.

I don’t like online dating because I was never able to pull the same quality of ass that I was able to pull in real life.I don’t have the patience for it anyways.

Right now I’m throwing myself in my work, going on hikes, and hitting the gym. I really miss the club and bar scene, don’t see myself banging many hot chicks again until it opens back up realistically. Let’s face it those of us who are not using Instagram or online dating to meet women are ****ed
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why did she treat you this way that you had to break up? Do you think she is hiding something and she is guilty?
 

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I would revise where you approach and not just limit it to clubs and bars. Think supermarkets and take fitness classes and activities that benefit you but have a healthy does of females in them as well. Even just taking walks or hanging out at parks and the lake. There have been many solo females hanging out around my area at least.

As a data point, whenever I do match a gal online, a lot of them tell me they've been taking walks and hanging out at parks and lakes by themselves.
 

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I would revise where you approach and not just limit it to clubs and bars. Think supermarkets and take fitness classes and activities that benefit you but have a healthy does of females in them as well. Even just taking walks or hanging out at parks and the lake. There have been many solo females hanging out around my area at least.

As a data point, whenever I do match a gal online, a lot of them tell me they've been taking walks and hanging out at parks and lakes by themselves.
Yup. There’s a park near my house where I run stairs twice a week and has a hill perfect for doing sprints on. Women EVERYWHERE running and walking and walking their dog at the park. They look at me like I’m crazy running stairs when it’s 90 degrees but they smile and wave.lol
 

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Broke up with my girlfriend of 8 months about a month ago. Really starting to lose my mind in this thing. But it’s better than being with an obnoxious ***** I guess.

I don’t like online dating because I was never able to pull the same quality of ass that I was able to pull in real life.I don’t have the patience for it anyways.

Right now I’m throwing myself in my work, going on hikes, and hitting the gym. I really miss the club and bar scene, don’t see myself banging many hot chicks again until it opens back up realistically. Let’s face it those of us who are not using Instagram or online dating to meet women are ****ed
Me either man on the account of OLD. Its few and far between irl and cold approach.

As for quarantine, cold approaching during pandemic is even worse than usual but given its global pandemic, its not a surprise. As for OLD matching, 80% are attention *****s. The path forward is FALL IN OR **** OFF. 7day time line or #next.

I am doing pickup and its going better now then say a month or so ago. There's a solid keeper in rotation. Lots of foreign girls on worker visas in the UK or do i found. The girl at the start of pandemic I dropped. I lost count of women I #next.

Cap mate, you are coming out of the abyss of LTR and into a globalised pandemic. The rejection rate is a bit higher than what you would expect in general times.

I busy myself by running, hiking, reading, meditation, and calisthenics or ring workouts. I found several workout parks and outdoor fitness avenues. Here, i met lots of girls. They love stretchy pants. I cannot help myself. Stretchy pants is a RSVP!

Heal up. Lift. Critical thinking and problem with skills are money atm. Women are everywhere. Dog parks, trails, shopping, and so on. I am noticing women requiring less game and the slightest of invitation yielding ROI.

As in, approaching during social distancing is breaking the law and women can rebuff in Karen fadhion. The lack thereof is assumed HIGH interest. Act as such.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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