Need some insight!
TLDR is at bottom
i've been coming into this bar a lot for lunch because its right next to the office.
lately this bartender has taken notice of me. I've seen her before but we never really spoke. I just got my drink and my shot from her.
At first they were just regulation shots then she started to pour doubles all the time and only charging for a single. I laughed one night when she kept pouring i'm like "I never thought i'd have to cut the bartender off."
She laughed and said "I mean you're in here every sunday night for a reason i figure why not make it a good one."
I said touche to that. Now i've started to see her when I eat lunch and she makes a point to sit with me and chat. She's even started asking me personal questions like what i do for a living, where I live, Things i like etc.
Now i've been a regular at bars before but it never gets personal its almost like a business relationship. This feels more like friendship/something else. I've asked about her tattoos applying standard seduction techniques touching her hands. hell i even ran my finger along her clavicle tracing a tattoo she had that interested me.
Last night as the bar got busy she was getting flustered and kept looking at me to put her at ease. (that felt strange for me because it was like we were making a connection) Also we spoke about how she feels when it gets busy during lunch a couple weeks ago.
also a customer was making her nervous because he was seriously hammered he was asking awkward questions about the menu. and she kept looking to me on what she should say or for me to do something.
So I stepped in an took charge of their conversation and kept him quiet and not bothering other bar guest (who were also getting uncomfy) until he got his food and left.
I'm about to leave myself and she goes you're leaving already? (it was only 8:15) I said yup. she said welll can the bartender buy you a drink, anything you want on the house. I said even a shot? she smiled and said anything.
i know i should have said how about i just get your number instead. would have been so smooth but she got me drunk by pouring such big shots
INSTEAD I declined because i was drunk But i left her a 40 dollar tip. (and no i don't usually leave 40 dollar tips. i usually under tip so for a 20 dollar tab i'd pay 3 bucks)
She asked me when i'll be in again. (another weird question even for a regular) and i said maybe for lunch sometime or sunday. she said i'd love that and shook my hand and i went home.
TLDR: I think the bartender likes me i'm getting a strange vibe from her. asks me a lot of personal questions. Calmed a drunk customer down because she was getting flustered. End of night she offers to buy me a drink after asking if i'm leaving. Asks me when i'll be in again, we shake hands and i leave.
How can i escalate this or see if she is attracted to me?
TLDR is at bottom
i've been coming into this bar a lot for lunch because its right next to the office.
lately this bartender has taken notice of me. I've seen her before but we never really spoke. I just got my drink and my shot from her.
At first they were just regulation shots then she started to pour doubles all the time and only charging for a single. I laughed one night when she kept pouring i'm like "I never thought i'd have to cut the bartender off."
She laughed and said "I mean you're in here every sunday night for a reason i figure why not make it a good one."
I said touche to that. Now i've started to see her when I eat lunch and she makes a point to sit with me and chat. She's even started asking me personal questions like what i do for a living, where I live, Things i like etc.
Now i've been a regular at bars before but it never gets personal its almost like a business relationship. This feels more like friendship/something else. I've asked about her tattoos applying standard seduction techniques touching her hands. hell i even ran my finger along her clavicle tracing a tattoo she had that interested me.
Last night as the bar got busy she was getting flustered and kept looking at me to put her at ease. (that felt strange for me because it was like we were making a connection) Also we spoke about how she feels when it gets busy during lunch a couple weeks ago.
also a customer was making her nervous because he was seriously hammered he was asking awkward questions about the menu. and she kept looking to me on what she should say or for me to do something.
So I stepped in an took charge of their conversation and kept him quiet and not bothering other bar guest (who were also getting uncomfy) until he got his food and left.
I'm about to leave myself and she goes you're leaving already? (it was only 8:15) I said yup. she said welll can the bartender buy you a drink, anything you want on the house. I said even a shot? she smiled and said anything.
i know i should have said how about i just get your number instead. would have been so smooth but she got me drunk by pouring such big shots
INSTEAD I declined because i was drunk But i left her a 40 dollar tip. (and no i don't usually leave 40 dollar tips. i usually under tip so for a 20 dollar tab i'd pay 3 bucks)
She asked me when i'll be in again. (another weird question even for a regular) and i said maybe for lunch sometime or sunday. she said i'd love that and shook my hand and i went home.
TLDR: I think the bartender likes me i'm getting a strange vibe from her. asks me a lot of personal questions. Calmed a drunk customer down because she was getting flustered. End of night she offers to buy me a drink after asking if i'm leaving. Asks me when i'll be in again, we shake hands and i leave.
How can i escalate this or see if she is attracted to me?