Anybody know about this?

[sosilky]

Anybody know of any good articles or posts on trust? or trusting women?

 

[Mavrick]

No, because you can't. Just take it for what it is. That's why you need to forget about women for a little while and work on yourself.

I've decided to stop searching. Stop seeking it until I truly love myself. I post a lot of stuff on here that is spot on, but I've just realized I need to be practice what I preach.

 

[sosilky]

No, because you can't. Just take it for what it is. .

um...ok

 

[Mavrick]

The only way to trust a woman is to be a challenge and keep up the intrigue.

Once you do that, she'll be calling you all the time and buying you stuff.

 

[sosilky]

The only way to trust a woman is to be a challenge and keep up the intrigue.

so you are saying do these things and she won't betray you? aren't there other guys out there that could do the same for her?

 

[Mavrick]

so you are saying do these things and she won't betray you? aren't there other guys out there that could do the same for her?

Women don't chase guys who are up their butts. They want the guy that's a challenge. It's not even possible for her to chase a guy that's chasing her.

 

[Purple-Haze]

Anybody know of any good articles or posts on trust? or trusting women?

This is a very general question - too general to produce any solid answers.

Are you talking about trust in an LTR? Trust with regards to a ONS? Narrow the scope of your question and then maybe you'll get some feedback.

 

[WC2]

so you are saying do these things and she won't betray you? aren't there other guys out there that could do the same for her?

No, I don't believe he's saying that.

You have to understand that women work on emotions. They are not built on logic. A woman typically will not 'logically' be trustworthy. If you TELL her to not do something, chances are she will. However, if you make her feel as if she should not do something, she probably won't.

This is where being the prize to a woman comes in. If you are always pushing a woman to win you over, then she will 'feel' as if she can't betray you. Why? Because she feels that if she makes a wrong move, she will lose you. However, if she already has you in her grasp, what does she have to lose?

Now this is not to say that you can't love a woman (obviously). You can love a woman as much as you like. The main idea is to keep your life in your own sights and don't become dedicated to hers.

Trust is a complicated thing that cannot be answered as easily as you ask it to be. Most of the time learning the hard way is the only way.

 

[ready123]

half the answers don't make any sense

he's asking about trust, not "how do I not come across needy". read the question before answering

if it's LTR trust, I'm curious what other people have to say too. only thoughts I have is that it has to be earned, over time it becomes one of the pillars of a meaningful LTR, and it's one of those things you should always qualify the girl for, ONS or not

 

[Mavrick]

half the answers don't make any sense

he's asking about trust, not "how do I not come across needy". read the question before answering

if it's LTR trust, I'm curious what other people have to say too. only thoughts I have is that it has to be earned, over time it becomes one of the pillars of a meaningful LTR, and it's one of those things you should always qualify the girl for, ONS or not

The answer to TRUST is by being a challenge. A woman who thinks you are the catch (which can't be done by being needy) will not make a wrong move. She'll always make sure she has your best interest at heart.

Even in a LTR, you have to have your OWN life. You have to have your own things you enjoy and love. That keeps you interesting and keeps up the intrigue. Women Stay on their toes for guys like that.

 

[sosilky]

The answer to TRUST is by being a challenge. A woman who thinks you are the catch (which can't be done by being needy) will not make a wrong move. She'll always make sure she has your best interest at heart.

Even in a LTR, you have to have your OWN life. You have to have your own things you enjoy and love. That keeps you interesting and keeps up the intrigue. Women Stay on their toes for guys like that.

Is it possible to maintain this intrigue at all times? we all have ups and downs. Am I to beoive that if i hit a rough patch I'm gonig to be cheated on? Are n't there other factors that cause wpmen to be distrustful? Maybe she runs into an ex or some other guy that just happens to spark her interest.

I guess I just feel like your sayiing if the women can't be trusted its your fault

 

[sosilky]

The answer to TRUST is by being a challenge. A woman who thinks you are the catch (which can't be done by being needy) will not make a wrong move. She'll always make sure she has your best interest at heart.

Even in a LTR, you have to have your OWN life. You have to have your own things you enjoy and love. That keeps you interesting and keeps up the intrigue. Women Stay on their toes for guys like that.

Is it possible to maintain this intrigue at all times? we all have ups and downs. Am I to beoive that if i hit a rough patch I'm gonig to be cheated on? Are n't there other factors that cause wpmen to be distrustful? Maybe she runs into an ex or some other guy that just happens to spark her interest.is there a fine line between being dervoted to all those things and making her feel neglected?



I guess I just feel like your sayiing if the women can't be trusted its your fault

 

[Mavrick]

I guess I just feel like your sayiing if the women can't be trusted its your fault

If you're dating a woman that you have to worry about, then you have no respect for yourself. In which case, it is your fault. Always find the best for YOU. You don't have to go out and find chicks that will impress everyone else. You have to put up with this b1tch, so you better find one that will add to your happiness and not take away from it.

Can you see where I am going here? I hope so!

 

[sosilky]

If you're dating a woman that you have to worry about, then you have no respect for yourself. In which case, it is your fault. Always find the best for YOU. You don't have to go out and find chicks that will impress everyone else. You have to put up with this b1tch, so you better find one that will add to your happiness and not take away from it.

Can you see where I am going here? I hope so!

i think i might be starting too

 

[reset]

You trust a woman once she has demonstrated to you, over time, with consistent actions that she can be trusted. This doesn't mean you assume she's untrustworthy right off the bat. But you don't know until you know.

This is why you qualify women.

 

[Mavrick]

Trustworthyness is earned.

 

[sosilky]

You trust a woman once she has demonstrated to you, over time, with consistent actions that she can be trusted. This doesn't mean you assume she's untrustworthy right off the bat. But you don't know until you know.

This is why you qualify women.

I guess I just have a problem with that becsause had i not been skeptical of the last one (and she gave no reason for me to be) i nvestagated anyways and found that she was also seeing another guy. At this point I could still have not known and totaly trusted her. but that relationship was only lik e a month or two old so maybe i shouldn't hold that against her. But it also could be a clue that shes not gonna ever be trust worthy. is it possible for a relationship to build when it starts that way?

Anywas Mavrick and ready have said some interesting things. I guess I just wish i could trust people. i don't like feeling this way. it almost makes me feel like why is trust so important anyway? lol like you know how some people have these relationships where people just take what eachother say with a grain of salt or roll their eyes and let it go cause they just don'rt want to deal with the drama yet still enjoy eachothers company? i find that intersting. ifigure why not just be honest. or does the truth just hurt?

 

[ready123]

The answer to TRUST is by being a challenge.

lol that sounds poetic but conceptually it makes no sense

you act like a challenge if you're needy to fake it until internalize a more balanced reality. you act like a challenge by doing push-pull to add intrigue when running attraction game

trust has nothing to do with either. trust is something you use in an ONS to kill last minute resistance and flaking, or something REAL you build over time in a relationship

 

[ready123]

Is it possible to maintain this intrigue at all times? we all have ups and downs. Am I to beoive that if i hit a rough patch I'm gonig to be cheated on? Are n't there other factors that cause wpmen to be distrustful? Maybe she runs into an ex or some other guy that just happens to spark her interest.is there a fine line between being dervoted to all those things and making her feel neglected?

notice where all these thoughts are coming from - the fear of getting cheated on. instead of trying to be more alpha or whatever, as an anticipated reaction to a girlfriend cheating (AKA if I do this and this and this, then she won't cheat and I won't have to worry anymore), just accept reality. reality is that you can't control everything

if you think that a girlfriend cheating on you is the worst thing that can happen to you, you're not ready for a relationship. the guys that are well-rounded go into LTR's knowing they can't control everything, but if the girl cheats, you don't put a gun to your head. you learn from it and move on

you learn from every failed relationship just like you learn from every failed appraoch. your skin gets thicker and the stuff your friends cry about it, you learn to reframe in a positive way

 

[Mistic]

Bro, what I have really learned is that you are alone in this world. You come in and go out alone. Because people are mostly living in fear right now, they act in ways that aren't really themselves. Learn to trust your intuition, and you will never have to put that trust in other people.

You will feel when someone is being straight with you or not. Right now this is the best way to trust people. Trust your intuition.