Magma
Senior Don Juan
Just curious. Have become more interested in the paranormal in the last 3 years or so. Anybody?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
No dis to 'Dish but a lot more people should be investigators rather than debunkers to things that really can't be fully debunked.KarmaSutra said:My man 'DISH is a debunker rather than an investigator.
:yes:ketostix said:No dis to 'Dish but a lot more people should be investigators rather than debunkers to things that really can't be fully debunked.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't come in here with your bullsh!t. It's a conversation not a set of commandments.Nighthawk said:No such things as the paranormal. But people will believe whatever makes them feel better.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
We had an investigation at the Clewiston Inn and it was extremely active. We have video of 5 of our SPIRITeam brothers and sisters in the midst of a seance when they whole fvcking table begins circling and bouncing. All the while none of our people ever moved thier hands. The remained perfectly flat the entire episode.Mctwist4 said:What's your best story karma?
No need to be rude dear.KarmaSutra said:Don't come in here with your bullsh!t. It's a conversation not a set of commandments.
Get the fvck over your opinion.
I was almost done with a 14 hour work day and I was on the rag.Nighthawk said:No need to be rude dear.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'll work it out and shout at ya!Deep Dish said:Karma, I would be interested in tagging along on one of your investigations on some weekend. That is one of the obligations of being a skeptic.
Dude, you sure that wasn't a ghost of Milton Erickson? He used to wear purple...KarmaSutra said:I had an interesting experience when I was 9 at my Aunts house. A purple entity woke me up and smiled and then vanished from the foot to the head.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.