neobrood
Senior Don Juan
... cuz I always fail... 
Any good openers?
Pls reply... thanks.
Any good openers?
Pls reply... thanks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Any tips for cold approach in bus stop?
- Thread starter neobrood
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MindOverMatter
Master Don Juan
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Bus stops are my favorite places to approach. The girl is stationary (not moving), she's usually bored waiting for the bus, and unless she's a total ice queen, you can have an awesome conversation in no time.
I did this approach last week actually.
"did the 95 pass by?"
"no/yes"
"ah thanks, my name is <> by the way"
"im <>"
"nice to meet you, (sometimes I'll say "that's a pretty cute name" if it's a unique one, I didn't do it last week tho), where are you coming from?"
"work/hair salon/feminist rally/etc"
ask more about that, get her talking about her life, etc, make her comfortable, make her laugh at least once, if she asks you anything, be mildly c&f, then once your or her bus comes, tell her you wanna get to know her better over coffee, and ask for her to punch her number into your phone.
I did this approach last week actually.
"did the 95 pass by?"
"no/yes"
"ah thanks, my name is <> by the way"
"im <>"
"nice to meet you, (sometimes I'll say "that's a pretty cute name" if it's a unique one, I didn't do it last week tho), where are you coming from?"
"work/hair salon/feminist rally/etc"
ask more about that, get her talking about her life, etc, make her comfortable, make her laugh at least once, if she asks you anything, be mildly c&f, then once your or her bus comes, tell her you wanna get to know her better over coffee, and ask for her to punch her number into your phone.
Hollowpoint
Master Don Juan
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'How long have you been waiting?'
I don't know, I give up.
I actually do nice weather openers and then start talking about what cool things I'm planning to do.
I don't know, I give up.
I actually do nice weather openers and then start talking about what cool things I'm planning to do.