Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yaa but you're at eye level to boobies, so you got that on us taller guys.Not only that, but a tall associate was the one that got the item for me.![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This. I'm 6'3 and it means next to nothing to women. The only people who care about height are short dudes who want an excuse for their failures and to pretend other men have it so much easier. If we're talking about physical components, looks are far more important to women.Height is overrated. I am 6 feet tall and it does help me get a few extra glances, but it is not a golden ticket. I see plenty of men 5'6" to 5'10" doing quite fine for themselves.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Height is overrated. I am 6 feet tall and it does help me get a few extra glances, but it is not a golden ticket. I see plenty of men 5'6" to 5'10" doing quite fine for themselves.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yeah they pull the measuring tape, before start dating you.....Women have a strong preference for the 6'0"+ man. That's reality. Most women swiping on apps feel entitled to a 6'0"+ man. When I first was coming up in the mating environment around 20-25 years ago (late 30s) now, it wasn't as drastic. If you go back to the year 2000, taller men were preferred then but it wasn't like it is today. I'm 5'10" and I have felt times where women seemed unhappy about my height. I can recall one date with a 5'8" woman that was sourced through a swipe app that seemed to have an uncomfortable dynamic at first due to my height. Conceptually, it might have seemed ok to her but once it happened in reality, she seemed a bit turned off by my appearance.
Women have seemed a lot more brazen and entitled about height stuff than even 10 years ago. I think this is happening as more women realize how much demand is out there for their pusssies so they are getting more demanding on what they want.
I have not noticed this at Walmart. I am rarely in Walmart. It's not a good place for picking up women. Other grocery stores and retail is better for pickup. I'm sure there are men who have done approaches in Walmart. I have not done a Walmart approach.
Being a short man stinks.