Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yaa but you're at eye level to boobies, so you got that on us taller guys.Not only that, but a tall associate was the one that got the item for me.![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This. I'm 6'3 and it means next to nothing to women. The only people who care about height are short dudes who want an excuse for their failures and to pretend other men have it so much easier. If we're talking about physical components, looks are far more important to women.Height is overrated. I am 6 feet tall and it does help me get a few extra glances, but it is not a golden ticket. I see plenty of men 5'6" to 5'10" doing quite fine for themselves.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Height is overrated. I am 6 feet tall and it does help me get a few extra glances, but it is not a golden ticket. I see plenty of men 5'6" to 5'10" doing quite fine for themselves.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yeah they pull the measuring tape, before start dating you.....Women have a strong preference for the 6'0"+ man. That's reality. Most women swiping on apps feel entitled to a 6'0"+ man. When I first was coming up in the mating environment around 20-25 years ago (late 30s) now, it wasn't as drastic. If you go back to the year 2000, taller men were preferred then but it wasn't like it is today. I'm 5'10" and I have felt times where women seemed unhappy about my height. I can recall one date with a 5'8" woman that was sourced through a swipe app that seemed to have an uncomfortable dynamic at first due to my height. Conceptually, it might have seemed ok to her but once it happened in reality, she seemed a bit turned off by my appearance.
Women have seemed a lot more brazen and entitled about height stuff than even 10 years ago. I think this is happening as more women realize how much demand is out there for their pusssies so they are getting more demanding on what they want.
I have not noticed this at Walmart. I am rarely in Walmart. It's not a good place for picking up women. Other grocery stores and retail is better for pickup. I'm sure there are men who have done approaches in Walmart. I have not done a Walmart approach.
Being a short man stinks.