Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

...any other guys get this?

Fuglydude

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 13, 2006
Messages
1,541
Reaction score
50
Location
Alberta, Canada
Hey all,

Just wondering if girls ever tell you that they think you're out of their league... I really don't get it when girls that I've gone out with tell me that I'm out of their league...its like how can I be out of you league if I'm with you right now??? When casually dating and looking for FBs my standards aren't super high normally :p ... but as long as a girls' a 6 or better and is fun to be with/nice and not as dumb as a sack of doorknobs, I'll hang out/fool around with her. I'm A LOT more picky when it comes to serious relationships however.

I guess it bothers me because I see myself as a nice, approachable, friendly, outgoing, social kinda guy...

Just wondering if any other guys get this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Mind_Body_Soul

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2004
Messages
281
Reaction score
1
Age
45
Location
A-Town PA USA
I've gotten the "You're too good for me" line.

It mean that the girl had low IL. Or at least that's how I took it. This girl had LSE and was on anti-depressants so not sure. ;)
 

joekerr31

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 20, 2005
Messages
3,394
Reaction score
110
Age
52
if your a decent guy sometimes when a woman says shes not good enough it means exactly that.

trust me, there are plenty of women out there who if you could see into their past you wouldnt want anything to do with them.

these women know who they are. no matter how much they pretty up the external package, their insides went rotten a long time ago.

and instinctually they know that they are meant to end up with a guy of similar distinction.

hey, there are hot chics who aren't f*cked up and who will suck your d*ck 10 times a day for being a nice guy.

but remember, nice guy is different than AFC, the two are often confused.
 

Fuglydude

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 13, 2006
Messages
1,541
Reaction score
50
Location
Alberta, Canada
joekerr31 said:
if your a decent guy sometimes when a woman says shes not good enough it means exactly that.

trust me, there are plenty of women out there who if you could see into their past you wouldnt want anything to do with them.

these women know who they are. no matter how much they pretty up the external package, their insides went rotten a long time ago.

and instinctually they know that they are meant to end up with a guy of similar distinction.

hey, there are hot chics who aren't f*cked up and who will suck your d*ck 10 times a day for being a nice guy.

but remember, nice guy is different than AFC, the two are often confused.
that's a really cool point about not confusing nice guys w/ AFCs. I'm a totally nice guy and have no issues w/ being a nice guy. I think the essence of being an AFC revolves around being complacent w/ mediocrity, and not having the drive or will to try and maximize one's own potential, and chase your dreams.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

joekerr31

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 20, 2005
Messages
3,394
Reaction score
110
Age
52
yep. a lot of guys think that caving to a woman every time she has an emotional temper tantrum is being a nice guy. its not, its being an AFC. it says 'i have so little respect for myself that im going to let you emotionally manipulate me any time you want.'

being a nice guy is a good thing. being a doormat isnt.
 

Mind_Body_Soul

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2004
Messages
281
Reaction score
1
Age
45
Location
A-Town PA USA
Agreed 100% joekerr. I like to use the term good guy as nice guy still means AFC in my dictionary, but it's all just terminology.
 

bigjohnson

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2007
Messages
2,438
Reaction score
38
In my experience it's code for "I don't know how to say this, but please piss off". But as always what she does takes precidence over what she says. Women have random crap flying out of their mouth all the time.
 
Top