Lost In the Seas
Senior Don Juan
there happens a few times when online conversation with a few girls become boring and uninteresting, do u djs have any tips for making a fun and intersting online chat?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Any online chatting tips?
- Thread starter Lost In the Seas
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If your talking to a girl who you find realy hard to talk to, and makes you put in the effort, do yaself a favour and NEXT her. Even if she says something like, "sexy" at the ends of her answers. The best pple I have met off the net make an effort to talk. Like I will say what I did today, and she will ask questions about it.
Tips on the whole net thing (in no order)
Always throw in something like "I am so tired, I could do with a cuddle, I love cuddling", she will (most of the time) say "omg I love cuddling too", then reply "I could cuddle for hours", keep talking about this for ages and she will be addicted.
If shes a realy grlie girl, talk about touch. Say something like "I love to slowly run my finger across the curve of the shoulder, all the way up to the side of the neck". I've had loads of girls say "omg stop I'm getting too turned on". (I don't mean be a freak, and have cyber sex).
Throw in a little story of how your idea of a good night in is to cuddle up with a grl, with a blanket and watch a DVD.
don't forget to noun.
Remember not to give your past away.
aim to meet within 2 weeks
try and find her passion in life and build some solid rapport.
when you get her number, don't txt her all the time and keep it friendly.
When you meet say we'll meet just to say hi.
best place to meet is in a club.
Keep her on block, only speak to her once everyday or 2.
keep it short
A web cam is realy gd for keeping a convo going
Don't get too attatched to the person your talking to as most of them are not as cool as you'd think.
Anyone wanna add anything?
Tips on the whole net thing (in no order)
Always throw in something like "I am so tired, I could do with a cuddle, I love cuddling", she will (most of the time) say "omg I love cuddling too", then reply "I could cuddle for hours", keep talking about this for ages and she will be addicted.
If shes a realy grlie girl, talk about touch. Say something like "I love to slowly run my finger across the curve of the shoulder, all the way up to the side of the neck". I've had loads of girls say "omg stop I'm getting too turned on". (I don't mean be a freak, and have cyber sex).
Throw in a little story of how your idea of a good night in is to cuddle up with a grl, with a blanket and watch a DVD.
don't forget to noun.
Remember not to give your past away.
aim to meet within 2 weeks
try and find her passion in life and build some solid rapport.
when you get her number, don't txt her all the time and keep it friendly.
When you meet say we'll meet just to say hi.
best place to meet is in a club.
Keep her on block, only speak to her once everyday or 2.
keep it short
A web cam is realy gd for keeping a convo going
Don't get too attatched to the person your talking to as most of them are not as cool as you'd think.
Anyone wanna add anything?
Good advice SOLID...
I personally think that you should keep chatting on the net to a minimum... after u get her number etc, just meet her in real life! But if you ARE chatting to her online then:
1) Try to make her laugh here and there too.
2) When ending the conversation with them make sure that they have a smile on their face
3) Dont make all the conversation... let her also ask YOU question or bring things up.
4) Play the "Question game" ... let me explain... You each take turns to ask eachother questions like: " So if there was 1 place you could be right now and you had to pick 1 persn to be there with, where and who would u go?" and u can slowly get to the stage where u find yourself asking her questions like " Describe the "BEST" sex partner" etc... this kinda thing can keep a conversation going for hours!
5) Try and avoid making to many smily faces such as " : ) " etc...
Well ya... there's my 2 cents on this topic... i hope it helps you.
I personally think that you should keep chatting on the net to a minimum... after u get her number etc, just meet her in real life! But if you ARE chatting to her online then:
1) Try to make her laugh here and there too.
2) When ending the conversation with them make sure that they have a smile on their face
3) Dont make all the conversation... let her also ask YOU question or bring things up.
4) Play the "Question game" ... let me explain... You each take turns to ask eachother questions like: " So if there was 1 place you could be right now and you had to pick 1 persn to be there with, where and who would u go?" and u can slowly get to the stage where u find yourself asking her questions like " Describe the "BEST" sex partner" etc... this kinda thing can keep a conversation going for hours!
5) Try and avoid making to many smily faces such as " : ) " etc...
Well ya... there's my 2 cents on this topic... i hope it helps you.
Lost In the Seas
Senior Don Juan
Thx guys
that question game seems like fun, thx a lot for the tips
that question game seems like fun, thx a lot for the tips
DjDreamer
Master Don Juan
This is just sad...in an IM convo you got time to think about what you will submit, you can delete and rewrite your thoughts with no stress concerning voice tone and voice projection...and Lost you want advice concerning that simple task?!? LoL... woe unto those that seek to complicate simple tasks...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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This isnt exactly a great tip, but when I was playing with online personals, I used to talk to them for a few minuets and joke around a little and then ask them: "Arent you the Lawyer I talked to yesterday?" (or banker, or broker or any other high powered job)
It sends the message that:
1.) Im talking to so many women that I cant keep them straight.
2.) I thought you might be a lawyer and I still joked around with you, so Im not threatened by powerful women at all.
3.) I associate with a lot of high class people.
I usually got a reply like: "No I wish! LOL! Im just a xyz....what do you do?" and it helps start the convo. I know it sounds really corney, but try it.
It sends the message that:
1.) Im talking to so many women that I cant keep them straight.
2.) I thought you might be a lawyer and I still joked around with you, so Im not threatened by powerful women at all.
3.) I associate with a lot of high class people.
I usually got a reply like: "No I wish! LOL! Im just a xyz....what do you do?" and it helps start the convo. I know it sounds really corney, but try it.