"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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any newly married guys here?

chopper1911

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been married a week and some change just curious of any other mm are here especially any long time married guys lol
im 34 by the way
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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not much has changed except my pockets are a lot lighter after this wedding and honeymoon and we dont talk as much maybe I m just new at this at getting jittery with the new environment. will keep u posted though. I checked out the marriage thread too that was a TON of info!
whoa
 

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Yes please do.

Keep this thread going - and update us every so often.

Value added info.
 

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actually got married on 4/30/05 but we wont be living together until next monday 5/16/05 so its kinda hard to tell so far how this is going to go. Honeymoon was ok blue water and cheap rum I was a happy ass man! fyi we have never lived together im 34 she 31. I m starting to think that even once you are married women still try and afc you a lil bit on the sneak.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How'd you guys meet? Do you both live near your families? How long have you been together?

Just some starter questions :)
 

chopper1911

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we met when I was living in atlanta and met at a local college there which is where she is from. She moved here (yesterday as a matter of fact) most of my family lives here.
 

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good luck and remember things are what you make them
 

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Thanks Pen
first real night at my crib for both of us went pretty smooth. except my bad ass cold.
 

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yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by chopper1911
yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY
I once went out with a girl who wanted to marry me. When I suggested we live together first, she got offended because she felt like it would be a "tryout" and she could fail.

Of course, I ended up dumping her anyway.
 

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Originally posted by chopper1911
yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY

The smartest thing you can do is to CONTINUE to court your wife. Take her out on dates, continue to woo her.

Dont fall in to the deadiest of marriage killers..... complacency and assumption...

Doc Love has a great thesis on this... only tell her you love her for every 3 times she tells you that she loves you... women love a chase so let her still chase you even though you are married
 

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thanks for all the advice and observations had big ass fight over the weekend now back to lovey dovey land again. It is hard once you are married not to fall into afc land. thanks for the tips about continuing to court your wife even after you are married I can see how that mindset will help a relationship. hey gixxer sold my gixxer last year by the way lol
 

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big ass fight over the weekend

uh oh....careful bro, careful. Pay attention...

You sold your gixxer? You have lost your mind!! :D
 

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yeah I sold the gixxer got a chopper too many tickets for wheelies etc. wasnt a fist fight just a big ol verbal argument. 1st one since we got married 25 days ago.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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SOLD THE GIXXER??? hmm, I've been thinking of selling my Fireblade, the insurance is killing me, and I haven't had a ticket in 15 years!!

just to agree with the others, you have to keep things interesting for sure, as soon as your marriage becomes a routine then your in trouble.
 
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