"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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any newly married guys here?

chopper1911

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been married a week and some change just curious of any other mm are here especially any long time married guys lol
im 34 by the way
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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not much has changed except my pockets are a lot lighter after this wedding and honeymoon and we dont talk as much maybe I m just new at this at getting jittery with the new environment. will keep u posted though. I checked out the marriage thread too that was a TON of info!
whoa
 

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Yes please do.

Keep this thread going - and update us every so often.

Value added info.
 

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actually got married on 4/30/05 but we wont be living together until next monday 5/16/05 so its kinda hard to tell so far how this is going to go. Honeymoon was ok blue water and cheap rum I was a happy ass man! fyi we have never lived together im 34 she 31. I m starting to think that even once you are married women still try and afc you a lil bit on the sneak.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How'd you guys meet? Do you both live near your families? How long have you been together?

Just some starter questions :)
 

chopper1911

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we met when I was living in atlanta and met at a local college there which is where she is from. She moved here (yesterday as a matter of fact) most of my family lives here.
 

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good luck and remember things are what you make them
 

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Thanks Pen
first real night at my crib for both of us went pretty smooth. except my bad ass cold.
 

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yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by chopper1911
yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY
I once went out with a girl who wanted to marry me. When I suggested we live together first, she got offended because she felt like it would be a "tryout" and she could fail.

Of course, I ended up dumping her anyway.
 

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Originally posted by chopper1911
yeah it was strange at 1st being married. whole relationship dynamic changes. I guess I went into freeze mode realizing I was a married man now and no more new p***y ever! After a few days I finally settled down and was getting used to the fact that Im married now. I do advise people to definitely live together 1st!
DEFINITELY

The smartest thing you can do is to CONTINUE to court your wife. Take her out on dates, continue to woo her.

Dont fall in to the deadiest of marriage killers..... complacency and assumption...

Doc Love has a great thesis on this... only tell her you love her for every 3 times she tells you that she loves you... women love a chase so let her still chase you even though you are married
 

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thanks for all the advice and observations had big ass fight over the weekend now back to lovey dovey land again. It is hard once you are married not to fall into afc land. thanks for the tips about continuing to court your wife even after you are married I can see how that mindset will help a relationship. hey gixxer sold my gixxer last year by the way lol
 

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big ass fight over the weekend

uh oh....careful bro, careful. Pay attention...

You sold your gixxer? You have lost your mind!! :D
 

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yeah I sold the gixxer got a chopper too many tickets for wheelies etc. wasnt a fist fight just a big ol verbal argument. 1st one since we got married 25 days ago.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SOLD THE GIXXER??? hmm, I've been thinking of selling my Fireblade, the insurance is killing me, and I haven't had a ticket in 15 years!!

just to agree with the others, you have to keep things interesting for sure, as soon as your marriage becomes a routine then your in trouble.
 
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