"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Any men's fashion, style forums or websites?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That forum is filled with faggotry and overwhelming homosexuality.synergy1 said:
The amount femininity is sickening.
I realised that a men's fashion forum is an oxymoron. Real men shouldnt have a passion for fashion. Thats gay.Alle_Gory said:
Fashion apparently means odd and emasculating clothing that requires too much thought and is more about trend than looks.
Summarise, fashion forum is a bad idea in general. Better to have a clothes discussion between men.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah, no sh*t. So there's no problem with the forum then. It's BECAUSE I don't have an eye or a passion for these kinds of things that I'm seeking help.Ease said:
I'm not looking to dress like a fairy. WTF man?
kingsam
Master Don Juan
Kailex
Master Don Juan
I picked up a LOT of tips from that place, but just some tips on DO's and DON'Ts. They have a section that shows you how to put together certain wardrobes, but it's not my style.
They also helped me in acquiring a new razor for the ultimate shave.
The site was a great read for me.
I've been to Stylenet forums and it was a turn off for me.
But the BIGGEST boost to my dressing repertoire was... Facebook.
You see, my sister lives in a place that is "trendy"... and when I mean trendy, I mean pretty much most men that live in her area are VERY well dressed professionals... including her boyfriend.
So I usually look at their pictures and try to pick up on visual clues as to what looks good and what doesn't and then I incorporate it into my style.
I used to be the guy wearing Ecko T-Shirts with baggy jeans and terrible looking sneakers. Over the course of a year, I started wearing button down shirts with the sleeves rolled up or a solid polo shirt. Jeans are definitely fitted to my body but definitely not skinny jeans. And now I am MUCH more conscious about shoes... that's always the centerpiece to anything I wear.
Also, I did take up some advice I've read here that you should try to emulate any actor/musician that you see... they usually are the first ones with access to newer style trends or are trendsetters themselves.
I just try to make anything I wear... my own style but infused with ideas from many other places.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
so what is the ULTIMATE shave?Kailex said:
so ture, i oftne see indie kids wiht these ridiculously tight jeans, looks really strange, it also looks very effeminate (as does emo style)
i always wonder how crushed thier balls feel, and what if they ever unluckily got a random boner whilst wearing them (itd hurt for one, and be way way obvious!)
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Yeah. That site, along with another, inspired me to buy a Merkur double-edged safety razor. Great purchase. Just got it like a month and a half ago...I despised the fact that we're expected to be slaves to Gillette and their overpriced blades for the rest of our lives. A pack of 100 replacement blades for my Merkur cost me $18. The same price as a 4-pack of Gillette's.Kailex said:
Plus shaving with that cool metal razor and using my badger-hair brush is just plain badass.
Kinowear has some good tips. And there's nothing "gay" about a man caring about his fashion sense. How we dress is a reflection of our personality. Whether you're a Wisconsin cowboy or a Wall Street banker, everyone has a look. Or at least they should.
That's the forum that I've used. It's geared toward the financial audience (my industry) but the advice will be legit nonetheless. Just be aware of the trolls from time to time and the Wall Street inside humor, like the "Watch rankings" thread which is 20% serious and 80% poking fun of how financial guys like to "rank" everything.
It depends what you're getting these clothes for also. Brooks Brothers/J Press is great if you're done with school and are working, but you'd probably be way overdressed for your university or high school. I like to go for more traditional styles than trendy things. Every Brooks Brothers that I've gone to has had great customer service, so you might want to just walk in and let the guy know what you're looking for. The prices are higher, but you get what you pay for and the fit and quality of the material is very good. Granted, they are more of a traditional/preppy look which is good if you're working, but you might stand out at a university or something...although standing out isn't necessarily a bad thing, but so you know
Fantastic for teaching you about style, clothing choices etc. It's kept REALLY up to date, with articles on pretty much everything you could want to know. I'm always popping back every few days.
The military style's quite big at the minute.. I brought a pair of £75 boots from River Island the other day and have had a million comments on them- <3
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I don't know about forums, but these two YouTube channels are pretty badass.Alle_Gory said:
StyleMinute is far from feminine. AlphaM is about masculine dressing too, but Aaron might not be everyone's style.
You can still learn a lot about basic clothing from both channels. Since it's almost summer I link you guys to some summer clothing vids.
I learned a lot about dressing from both these channels! Basically, don't wear baggy clothes.
StyleMinute: Jackets for Summer or Warm Weather
AlphaM: V Neck summer Tees
these dudes have solid clothing styles for dudes
Especially Japan, Korea, and Taiwan. It's a bit far out there for me since i prefer a mixture of GQ style, trendy fashionable clothes, and mobile clothes (so of the new trendy clothes make me feel like i'm going to rip them if i were to start running).
Fashion beans website looks legit.
I've only went to wallstreet oasis for banking and consulting advice. Nice to know they have GQ fashion advice on there too.
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From what i've learned from the banking world/finance world as i meet with bankers all the time are.
No shirts with pockets.
White, pink, and sometimes blue shirts are allowed.
Belt must match shoe color (this is an obvious).
Shoes must be laced, no slip ons.
French cuff shirts are allowed.
Black or navy blue suits are allowed. Grey suits or anything else is not conservative and stands out and can possible get you cut from the hiring process.
Your suit jacket should be buttoned at all times unless you are currently sitting. If you stand up, button the jacket immediately.
& a whole bunch of eating etiquette crap like which utensils to use and foods to order.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.